Friends Or Lovers?

Many of my clients ask me if they should focus on the friendship aspect of their relationships if they want the relationship to go in the direction of marriage.

Does having a solid friendship foundation help, when you know that the person you just met can potentially be “the one” you will be spending the rest of your life with? Several people have told me how they jumped in with both feet, only to be let down later.

I always suggest trying to form a good friendship before taking it “undercover.” However, I also find that if the love cord connection is there, it sometimes doesn’t matter. I have seen with many clients that even they went straight to the ‘lovers mode’, before forming a good friendship, it didn’t affect the progression of their relationship. Continue reading →