Energy Awareness Is The Foundation Of Self-Care

As sentient spirit beings in human form we are constantly interacting with the energies of other people. This energy exchange can be a very positive, uplifting experience, or very toxic and draining.

Those of us who are empowered empaths or highly intuitive can typically discern if someone’s vibes are one way, or the other. Healthy or unhealthy. We usually know what kind of incoming energy we are dealing with.

But if this energy awareness does not come naturally to you, it is vital you develop your ability to discern the difference, because there is always an energy exchange whenever we interact with others. For this reason, I often encourage my clients, who are struggling with their energy balance and maintaining boundaries, to practice meditation and do related energy healing and protection work.

An unhealthy type of energy exchange that I frequently assist people with is when they have someone in their life who is narcissistic, entitled, toxic, or has a victim mentality. For example, just this week I helped someone who has been entangled in a deeply stressful, draining connection with a friend who was constantly placing her in the uncomfortable position of having to play therapist, counselor, and nursemaid.

It’s one thing to sometimes be there for a partner, friend or relative when they are going through a difficult time and need some support. But it is quite another when it becomes a constant, on a daily basis, with no apparent end in sight! Enough already. It is also pointless to try and support someone else with their mental health challenges when your own well-being begins to suffer because of it.

Let go of negative people. They only show up to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear, and judgment on others. If somebody is looking for a bin to throw all their trash into, make sure it’s not in your mind ~ Dalai Lama

Yes, everyone deserves to be loved and supported. We all need someone to talk to. But at some point, one needs to draw a line between being a caring, supportive friend, and becoming someone’s free therapist, or worse…their emotional punchbag and doormat!

One of the most valuable lessons we can learn in our lifetime is to understand and accept that no one is coming to save us. We did not choose to come to this world to play the victim. We must all be our own savior. It is not the duty of others to fix our lives, or make us feel better.

There can be no spiritual and personal growth without personal accountability. Each person is responsible for making sure they acquire what they need in life: mind, body, and soul. It is never okay to put another person in that role. And if we find ourselves needing some professional help, we must find the appropriately qualified person to assist us.

It’s too much for anyone to have to carry this kind of responsibility for a loved one, friend or coworker. Leave it to the professionals. Yes, it is our compassionate duty to be a good listener and support others when they most need it, but if your friend is expecting you to counsel them all the time, some boundaries are in order.

As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy – and they take a lot of each. Toxic people create unnecessary complexity, strife, and, worst of all, stress ~ Travis Bradberry

To know the difference between a healthy and unhealthy energy exchange ask yourself the following questions when you interact with someone.

1. Does this person actively listen to me, like I listen to them? Am I listening to them, just as much as they are listening to me? Or is it always one-sided?

2. Do I typically feel drained, or energized when I interact with them? Does being in their presence feel good, and right? Or is the person mentally, emotionally, and physically draining to be around?

3. When I walk away from an interaction with them, do I feel guilty, anxious, frustrated, tired, or depressed? Or do I feel inspired, motivated, hopeful, excited, fulfilled?

If you find that you need to take a step back from someone for the sake of your own mental health, know that this is okay. You can certainly give them some positive closure by encouraging them to get professional assistance, since you are not qualified to help them. But then you need to step away and put on your own oxygen mask first.

Don’t let toxic people sabotage your happiness, ruin your positive attitude, contaminate your mind or destroy your self-confidence. Instead, surround yourself with generous, positive, and nurturing people who will lift you up ~ Farshad Asl

As a psychic intuitive, I know when I can assist clients with an issue, and when it may be best for them to consult a therapist. In fact, I have a therapist myself, who I consult with whenever I feel the need. Yes, even psychics, mediums and healers need support.

We all need someone to talk to and it’s good to know the difference as to when and who to go to. There are many ways to be heard and knowing which person to go to is essential to get the best help at the right time.

As a professional psychic, it is also essential for me to know who to allow into my personal and professional life, and who to keep at arm’s length. It would be impossible for me to do accurate readings and truly be of service to my clients, if I was constantly drained or taken emotional advantage of by the people in my life.

So, bottom line, learn to discern which relationships and energy connections in your life are healthy, and which ones are not. It’s essential for your personal well-being, spiritual growth, and soul evolution. In truth, it is the foundation of proper self-care.