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What Is My Gift?

Click Here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comRecently, during a reading, someone asked me what her ‘gift’ was. When asked why she wanted to know this, she said, “Because I don’t want to continue studying or working, unless I know I am going to succeed and be really good at it.” My jaw dropped.

To me that is like saying, “I will only get married, and have a children, if there is a guarantee that it will all work out!” Even if you have a so-called ‘gift,’ it doesn’t mean you will be ‘successful’ at it in earth plane terms. Jesus, Buddha, and many other spiritual teachers, did not become rich and famous in their lifetimes. They used their ‘gifts,’ talents and lives for the greater good, because they believed in what they were doing.

In my days as a performing artist, I saw many gifted, brilliant dancers choosing to abandon the dance studio to raise children. I saw mediocre or physically challenged dancers, with no family support, work, and work, and work, to become brilliant dancers… while others thought they were simply ‘gifted.’

Sadly this idea of having a special ‘gift’ has become a cash cow for the self-help industry. Tell someone they have a gift, and they will hand over thousands of dollars to attend workshops and seminar to develop their ‘gift.’ And the so-called teacher gets to feel good for getting others hyped up about having a gift, for which there is no evidence, and therefore they cannot be held accountable when nothing materializes.

Talent is God-given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful ~ John Woode

The self-help addict might then move on to another source that will tell them about another so-called gift or calling they might have. The reality is, gift or no gift, one only becomes really good and successful at something through consistent study and hard work, while having a passion for doing the tasks required.

It seems this idea of having a special gift, spiritual or otherwise, goes along with the idea that somehow the gifted individual is one of the ‘chosen ones.’ And not only has God, Goddess, Creator, Source, the Divine, bestowed this special gift upon them, but they also don’t have to do any work, or apply themselves to learning any skills.

With this twisted concept also comes the thinking that having a gift means that you will now get special recognition from others for your special gift. Sigh. All about the ego. New Age narcissism. Even Jesus studied and learned, so did the Buddha (and just about every avatar that ever walked the earth). Neither achieved the huge recognition in their lifetime that was awarded to them long after they died. Yet these days people want to be revered like Jesus!

Let’s remember that the Creator gave humans a left brain, as well as a right brain. Science and intuition are both embodied in our genetic make-up. If you want to know if you have a gift, you are already in trouble. You should be asking yourself what is it that you love to do, with no thought of success (whatever that means for you). Why? Because every worthwhile occupation takes work and practice. If you don’t already love it, you will not work on it or practice hard.

If you want to know what your gift is, it is a sure sign you want to feel special. And that probably means that you have much internal work to do, on your self-esteem and need for ego gratification.

With ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable ~ Thomas Foxwell Burton

If you want to know if you have a gift, look at what is underneath that question and you will find these ego-driven ambitions. Do you want recognition? Do you want others to complement you for what you do? Do you want to make a living using your gift without having to study or work long hours to develop your gift? Do you want to feel special, or appear special. Are you so ashamed of who you are, that you need to be ‘gifted’ to feel worthwhile, rather than do the internal work needed to feel whole, authentic and connected?

If you would love to do energy healing work, or do oracle card readings, or talk to angels or animals, then do it. Study it. Pursue it with passion. Integrate it into your daily life, your very existence. Then offer it up freely to others, and apply your talents quietly or humbly, without the benefit of accolades or even recognition, never mind success.

For 20 years, as a professor, I used readings and energy work to help students. A few recognized what was going on and talked to me about it, most did not. It was silent work. Why did I do it? Because I loved it and I believed that choosing to live what I believed in, without shoving it down anyone’s throat, would make the world little bit better place. It is how I lived my personal life, and I shared it with others without seeking praise or recognition. I never spoke about it unless asked, and even then, I did so carefully. There was no thought of having a gift, or not. I studied, practiced, and shared without thought of results or praise.

I can say that my spiritual mentors had set this precedent for me, and gratefully I adopted the marvelous example they embodied. Spirit chose them to become public spiritual workers, or not. But they all pursued their spiritual work, because they loved it, lived it, and wanted to share what helped them, what moved them and touched their heart. And they shared it with anyone that reached out, or came to them, quietly and humbly.

We all have gifts. What you do with them is your free will choice. Some have gifts and walk away from them, because the industry the gift belongs to is too corrupt. Some walk away from their so-called gifts because they realize they are not ready. Some ride the wave of their gift for a while, doing no work on it, and when the wave eventually crashes, so do they.

Talent is a universal gift, but it takes a lot of courage to use it. Don’t be afraid to be the best ~ Paulo Coelho

Follow your interest and passion when learning and practicing something outside the boundaries of everyday life, be it music, art, spiritual practices. Just do it. Then let Spirit decide how your ‘gift’ can be best used. Study (we have a left brain for a reason), meditate, pray, practice, work, and give freely for the sake of giving.

Your fate, your destiny, your purpose will come and find you. You do not have to chase it, implying Spirit somehow forgot to put you on the pedestal you seek or give you a paycheck for your special work. Your job is to be ready, knowledgeable, skilled, confident, practiced, humble when the time comes. Meanwhile, continue your studies and practice so that when you are called to do something for Spirit, whether it be something big or small (although no act of helping another can be considered small) you are ready and at your personal best.

Your gift might simply be to be the best parent to a special child. Then study parenting and practice those skills. Your gift might even be to be the best street cleaner, for that matter. If this does not satisfy you, you can bet that your desire to put a name and result to your so-called gift is an ego trip – a red flag that your soul needs some work, as well as your ego.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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