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click here for a FREE reading at PsychicAccess.comYour evolution and growth never stops. Certain skills need to be learned and practiced. Then, as your energy shifts and changes more rapidly, more profoundly and with greater consciousness, if you have a spiritual practice, you are able to change your skills, enhance them, and learn to handle and use new skills.

Earth plane changes in skills typically start with cognition – left brain learning of new ideas, theories, or skills. This is true in mainstream therapies as well. After you learn an idea, you practice it, and then learn to handle what happens when you use these new ideas, concepts or skills. You learn to handle the energy of your implemented changes. Life does this too. You get a divorce, your spouse cheats, you are fired. This changes your energy, and then you have insights – a rough way to go.

Profound spiritual based changes happen differently. When Spirit is leading you forward, you are being led into changes you cannot, at the moment, comprehend. You cannot ‘ask’ for them, or ‘manifest’ them, because they are beyond your imagination. They are about to become miracles, but not the ones your childish brain imagines. A child asks for candy for dinner. When you try to ‘manifest’ or ‘intend’ you are like that child, because your requests, your imagination, can only go as far as the limitations of your brain, and your own current spiritual development.

Both skills are needed. Learn Earth skills. Explore your childhood of origin. You chose them before you came here. Time to first face the lessons learned, and the skills needed to overcome the challenges of childhood. Then you can move on to a soul perspective. Only after the hurts and confusion have been confronted, can Spirit grant you the power to detach, and grant you forgiveness.

Growth and self-transformation cannot be delegated ~ Lewis Mumford

I am a firm believer we cannot forgive. We merely work on our emotions, thoughts, beliefs and behaviors. Spirit will then grant us forgiveness. You cannot force yourself to feel emotions, like gratitude or forgiveness. You have to accept what you feel, face it, mourn, celebrate progress, and ask Spirit to Guide your work and progress. You will know when you have ‘graduated’ the current lesson, when you notice that your feelings have changed, through the Grace of Spirit. This is when forgiveness appears, and detachment arrives. Just like someone cannot force you to love, you cannot force yourself to feel what you think is politically correct, because you are an ‘advanced’ person.

Accept your Earth plane challenges. Work on them and learn appropriate skills. After all that is why you incarnated – not to be Jesus, but to evolve and grow as a soul. If that means you are a healer or a janitor, the path is the same: soul evolution. How you do it does not make you ‘more advanced’ than any one person. That is just hype.

Now, you can work on the Earth skills you learned, via facing your challenges, to an energetic, spiritual, soul level. Many so-called spiritual people like to jump to this step using left brain thinking, including avoidance and denial. But it is only by going through the tunnel of your challenges that your energy field is changed enough for you to be led by Spirit into new ways of behaving and understandings.  f you avoid the tunnel of change, it is your old brain, your old thinking, trying to find a new solution within the limitations of the old brain.

You know the saying: insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results? Well, you can add to this, ‘trying to get different results using the same old left brain energy field of your limited human mind.’ If you are using language to explain your solution or insights before you change your behavior, you can bet on the fact it is your left brain, your ego, your wounds, and your fears talking to you, trying to lead you to a new place, not Spirit.

So, what is Soul Evolution work? After you have done your Earth plane work, or after Earth plane work has flattened you, because you keep dodging the life lessons you don’t like, the first part is to notice how different you are. How? Implement your practice of mindfulness, and self-awareness, and start writing down what you notice about your changes, your progress.

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living ~ Gail Sheehy

Next, start trying new behaviors. Which ones? Any that are not what you used to do. Trial and error is the only way. It keeps you humble and will strengthen your relationship with Spirit, with your Sacred Self, and teach you a deeper level of living with faith. If you do not have a spiritual practice (beyond reading books and doing affirmations to get what you want) this phase will be difficult, to say the least. Those without a practice often make a U-turn at this phase and go back to the old dysfunctional behaviors, because it is easier and less frightening than moving into truly new territory.

People without a practice will feel out of control and lost, especially if they cannot tell their ‘amazing story’ to others. How frustrating to have to surrender to Spirit’s guidance. You can no longer just appear ‘amazing,’ you cannot take credit, and you cannot at the moment explain what you are doing, or why.

If you have a practice, usually at this stage your tolerance for being in the company of ‘muggles’ (or mundanes, those who live without the magic of Spirit) will be practically non-existent. Be patient, this will pass after you synthesize and integrate the new you that Spirit is leading you towards. A student once described this perfectly: “It is like being reincarnated over and over, but you keep coming back into the same body.”  This is a good description, about as close as you can get to a description.

If you don’t work with energy, feel energy, learn from energy, you are not working with Source. Energy (also called Sound) is the language of Source, of Higher Spirit. If you don’t have a true practice not much of this article will make sense to you.

At some point you will notice that you move beyond your Earth plane skills. For example, you learn boundaries, you practice them, and you become comfortable with being uncomfortable with the reactions of others when you set boundaries. After some time you might notice that you have these ‘feelings’ about people. You notice that you can sense something beginning to happen before it happens and it is so subtle you cannot describe it to others, or even to yourself. In fact, if you try to, people will react poorly, state you are ‘being negative,’ paranoid, or even crazy. Because of your shift in energy, you can now handle higher levels of ‘vibes’ coming from others and keep your center, your connection to self and Spirit.

The great solution to all human problems is individual inner transformation ~ Vernon Howard

So, you ‘listen’ to Spirit, to the energy of what is happening despite the words coming out of someone’s mouth. You take actions that to others may not make sense, but like animals sensing an upcoming earthquake, you sense what is coming from another person and shift your choices of words and actions. If you feel guided to do so, you may walk away from someone, change the subject, make a joke or not ask the question you were going to ask. Or, you may feel it coming and be guided to proceed, with your eyes wide open, knowing what is coming from the other person.

Some people, if you try to explain this, will accuse you of ‘making’ something happen, because you are having bad thoughts. These are the ‘manifest your reality’ people. If people manifested all of their thinking, trust me, you would see it. Everyone would be rich and thin and happy, and that has never been the case with humanity. It is never the case with the manifest people. Once you get to know them, you will find out their presentation does not match their reality.

With this ‘new you,’ boundaries are no longer so necessary. Your energy field is vibrating so differently that your energy field will now draw a new kind of person into your life and handle boundary issues for you before they happen, because people will treat you differently. It will make changes to your current relationships and your ability to receive guidance is expanded, so you will be able to handle situations staying more connected… even under pressure. You will notice these changes, rather than feeling like you are the one implementing these changes.

Words do not describe this well, as it is an energetic occurrence. You will sometimes still need to use boundaries and that will take less effort and be less difficult, perhaps even fun to do. But you will have ‘graduated’ this class and will soon be engaged in a ‘new class’ that will again change your energy field first, and impact your Earth plane world second.

Life will continue to give you ‘classes’ or ‘lessons,’ so will you evolve. Everyone is evolving. Even in the process of devolving, you are learning and changing and growing. If you have a practice, you enroll in your classes, participate in them, are willing to accept them and surrender to Spirit as the Teacher. Your choice: to enroll or be enrolled. Don’t dodge your Earth plane work. You incarnated in order to learn through experiences, whether you are an ‘advanced soul,’ an artist, a Tarot expert, or a Reiki master. No matter how ‘gifted’ you are, you will either expand or decline depending on whether or not you have a practice.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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