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Inventory And Choices

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comPeople often ask me how to make more progress on their spiritual path. Unfortunately the answer is always the same: time, practice, dedication and money. Money? Yes, even in the days of tribalism, the Shaman was always paid. Communities supported the shaman, to enable her to serve the tribe while keeping her own spiritual practice current and vital. So, yes, the currency of support these days is not food or shelter, but it is money.

As a professor at an art college, I used to observe that the students who were true artists often practiced their art in every spare moment. The students that only wanted a career in art did all they could do just to get by with their classes and training, so they could launch their ‘career’ and get what they wanted and desired, such as money, fame, status or lifestyle.

One is not better than the other, by the way. But this is about looking at what choices you truly make, not what you imagine. Take an inventory of where you spend your time, energy and money, and then look at it carefully, and learn. Own your choices so you don’t convince yourself or others that you are a victim.

By owning your choices, you will have the benefit of not manipulating others (consciously or unconsciously) by presenting as a victim that must be taken care of, and therefore cannot be held accountable. Not presenting as a victim means you will learn to ask for help and support in an honest and mature fashion, rather than singing a sob story to get help and support.

I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

This does not mean by the way that you will never have some pity parties along the way. You will. Part of growth is shadow work, feeling sorry for yourself, criticizing your choices in hindsight, and wishing things had been different or better. But that is different from functioning as a victim.

Feeling like a victim will happen. Accept it, feel it, process it. It is part of being authentic flawed, humble, and human. Then as you move through this processing, you will progress into more light, more insight, sometimes clarity, and definitely more inner peace. It will allow you to be better connected to your Higher Self which is your connection to Spirit.

If you want to progress or focus more on your spiritual work, then make different choices. This is not something dramatic like leaving your spouse or quitting your job, or moving to India. If you do that, your lessons will simply follow you to your new circumstances. Study with a true teacher, take private sessions if available, and spend money and time on spiritual workshops and retreats. Or not. Either choice is okay.

If you say you don’t have the money for spiritual work, then take an inventory on what you spend on eating out, entertainment, hair, nail and cosmetic spa treatments and other luxuries. Own your choices, and either stick with them and stop being a victim, or make other choices! And if you say you don’t have the time, again, take an inventory and look at how you normally spend your free time. See if you can make any changes and learn if you really want to make any changes, or if you are using lack of time as an excuse. If it is the latter, change that from an excuse to a choice. For now.

Acceptance of where you are, choices you are making regarding time, money, priorities, and being honest about your feelings, is the key to both emotional and spiritual well-being and progress. You cannot move forward if you cannot look at, see, and accept where you are currently at. Taking a victim stance prevents you from seeing where you are at and that will keep you stuck, in everything, not just in your spirituality.

The hardest decisions in life are not between good and bad or right and wrong, but between two goods or two rights ~ Joe Andrew

Once you are in acceptance, only then can you receive guidance. When being a committed victim, you will be so busy selling your sad story, both to yourself and others, there will be no room to hear Spirit, only your own voice telling stories.

The flip side, by the way, of holding on to a victim stance is to be unrealistically ‘positive.’ Both are forms of magical thinking. Acceptance, and facing reality, is the mature middle ground. That means you are willing to face and learn the lesson you are currently in. Only after you have learned your current lesson will you be able to be different enough (energetically and emotionally), as well as open enough, and detached enough, to learn something new, and to receive something new from Spirit.

If spirituality is a priority for you, make some choices around that. Take some inventories on your current habits to discover where your time, energy and money are going. Perhaps you will discover you really are not that invested in your spiritual growth right now; perhaps being a grandmother or building your career takes priority at the moment. That is a fine discovery! You can still grow spiritually. Meditate, go to classes, share and practice (practice, not teach) with friends, read, and work on yourself.

Spirituality becomes full-time when you practice mindfulness through self-awareness and through discovering and owning your choices. Spirituality is meant to be integrated into your current human life for both learning and enlightenment. That integration will be different for each person and will change throughout your lifetime. Spirituality is not meant to be a means to escape your life, your feelings, your circumstances, your responsibilities, or as a replacement for honest work and effort, or as a back-up career.

Inventories will help you to settle your energy by gathering real data, facts, about what you are doing versus what you either think you are doing, or wish you were doing. They will help you make choices by first accepting where you are now. Be here now.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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