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The Truth About Your ‘Gift’

click photo for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comRecently, during a psychic reading, someone asked me what their “gift” was. When asked why the person wanted to know this, their response was, “Because I don’t want to study or work on something, unless I know I am going to succeed and be good at it.”

My jaw dropped. That is like saying, I will only get married if there is a guarantee that it will last forever, with no mention of love. Even if you have a so-called ‘gift,’ it doesn’t mean you will be successful at it in earth plane terms. Jesus, Buddha, and so many other spiritual teachers, did not become rich and famous, in their lifetimes. They used their talents, gifts, and lives, for the greater good, because they believed in what they were doing.

Wouldn’t it be great to be gifted? In fact… It turns out that choices lead to habits. Habits become talents. Talents are labeled gifts. You’re not born this way, you get this way ~ Seth Godin

When I used to be a performing artist, I saw gifted, breathtaking dancers, who chose to leave the dance world in order to raise children. And I also saw dancers with challenged bodies and no family support, who worked, and worked, and worked to become brilliant dancers, while others thought they were ‘gifted.’

Sadly, this idea of having a ‘gift’ has become a cash cow for the New Age industry. Tell someone they have a gift and they will fork over thousands of dollars in workshop, seminar or webinar fees. And the so-called guru gets to feel good for getting others hyped up about having a gift, for which there is no evidence, and therefore the guru cannot be held accountable when nothing materializes. The New Age junkie might then move on to another source that will tell them about another so-called gift they might have.

The reality is, gift or no gift, one only becomes good at something through consistent study, effort and hard work, while having a passion for doing what is required.

In this era, it seems the idea of having a spiritual gift goes along with the idea that somehow you are one of the ‘chosen ones,’ and not only has this gift been bestowed upon you, making  you, oh, so special, but that you also don’t have to do any real work, or apply yourself to learning something new.

With this twisted concept also comes the thinking that having a ‘special gift’ means that you will now get recognition from others, to feed the ego. It is nothing more than New Age Narcissism. Even Jesus studied and learned. So did the Buddha, and just about every other Avatar. None of them really achieved in their lifetime the huge recognition awarded to them later, long after they died. Yet, these days people want to be ‘like Jesus’ including gaining recognition before they die.  Let’s remember that the Creator gave humans a left brain, as well as a right brain. Science and intuition are both embodied in our genetic make-up.

If you want to know if you have a gift, you are already in trouble. You should be asking yourself what is it that you love to do, with no thought of success, fame or fortune (whatever that means in this case). Why? Because everything worthwhile in life takes some hard work and practice. If you don’t already love it, you will not work on it, or practice it.

Every man has a specific skill, whether it is discovered or not, that more readily and naturally comes to him than it would to another, and his own should be sought and polished. He excels best in his niche – originality loses its authenticity in one’s efforts to obtain originality ~ Criss Jami

If you want to know what your gift is, it is a sure sign you may be looking for a easy shortcut; or maybe you want to feel special; or you may have internal work to do on your self-esteem; or you may have a need for ego gratification. If you want to know if you have a gift, look underneath that question and you may find these ego driven ambitions:

I want recognition.

I want others to complement me for what I do to or for them.

I want to make a living using my gift, and because it is a gift I don’t want to have to study or work long hours to develop myself  or the gift.

I want to feel special, I want to appear special.

I am so ashamed of who I am, I need this to feel worthwhile, rather than do the internal work needed to feel whole and connected.

If you love healing work or doing readings, or talking to angels or animals, then do it. Study it. Practice. Integrate it all into your daily life. Offer it up freely to others and apply your talents quietly or silently to others, without the benefit of accolades, or even recognition.

For 20 years as a professor, I used readings and energies to help students. A few recognized what was going on and talked to me about it, most did not. It was silent work. Why did I do it? Because I loved it and I believed that choosing to live what I believed in, without shoving it down anyone’s throat, would make the world little bit better place. It is how I lived my personal life and I shared it with others without seeking praise or recognition. I never spoke about it unless asked and even then, carefully. There was no thought of having a gift or not having a gift. I studied, practiced, and shared without thought of results.

I can say that my spiritual teachers all set this precedent for me, and gratefully I adopted the marvelous example they embodied. Spirit chose them to become public spiritual workers, or not. But they all pursued their spiritual work because they loved it, lived it, and wanted to share what helped them, what moved them and touched their heart, with anyone that reached out or came to them, silently and humbly.

When you are born you have two different potential for the world: You will either be a gift to the world or a trouble to the world! ~ Mehmet Murat ildan

We all have gifts. What you do with them is your free will. Some have gifts and walk away from them because the industry the gift belongs to is too corrupt. Some walk away from their so-called gifts because they realize they are not ready. Some ride the wave of their gift, doing no work on it and when the wave crashes, so do they. Follow your interest and passion when learning and practicing something outside the boundaries of everyday life be it music, art, spiritual practices. Just do it.

Then, let Spirit decide how your ‘gift’ can be best used. Study. We have a left brain for a reason. Meditate, pray, practice, and give for the sake of giving. Your fate, your destiny, your purpose will come and get you. You do not have to chase it, implying Spirit somehow forgot to put you on the pedestal you seek, or give you a paycheck for your work. Your job is to be ready, knowledgeable, skilled, confident, humble.

Continue your studies and practice so that when you are called to do something for Spirit, whether it be something big or something small, you are at your personal best. Your gift might be to be the best parent to a special child. Then study parenting and practice those skills. Your gift might be to be the best spouse or street cleaner. If this does not satisfy you, you can bet that your desire to put a name and result to your so-called ‘gift’ is just an ego trip – a red flag that your soul needs some work, as well as your ego.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

One Response to The Truth About Your ‘Gift’

  • I just discovered your blog.I like the few articles I have read.
    I do have a question,When people think of me, or even discuss me I can tell from hundreds of miles away.Especially where whoever is concerned have some emotional connection.Also sometimes its like I can hear peoples thoughts in my head. I can tell exactly how anyone feels at any one point.I am not sure of telepathy or just heightened energy sensitivity.

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