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Mysticism And Human Imperfection

Get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comPerfection. When we are a ball of light on the Other Side, there is only one kind of perfection. But here on Earth, fluidity of movement, acceptance, surrender, flowing into change… this is perfection. Earth perfection is the ability to fully embrace, love, laugh at, and survive the roller-coaster ride we chose before we came here.

Many healers and therapists sell themselves, in part, by projecting a public image… and sadly, many of their followers are mostly attracted to only that image. Why is that? Perhaps the idea of having an ‘ideal’ allows people to kind of let themselves off the hook, by declaring, “Well, I can never be perfect like her!” Or maybe we just like the idea that somehow our idea of perfection really does exist.

The great illusion of leadership is to think that man can be led out of the desert by someone who has never been there ~ Henri J.M. Nouwen

I am very suspicious of those who ‘present well.’ And especially those who present as ‘super-amazing.’ In my world, this is too often the hallmark of a narcissistic (or even sociopathic) personality. In our modern culture this is a major personality tendency. I have experienced firsthand how there can be a rather large gap between what some of these ‘role-models’ present to the public, and how that person is really living their life.  Reading biographies of famous people you admire often reveals this kind of dissonance.

Psychology discourages, and even forbids disclosure. Sure, there is some validity to this policy, because clients can end up feeling sorry for, or worried about a therapist, if they knew too much, and subsequently lose their ability to receive help and guidance. However, a good therapist could also use some of their own struggles as part of the healing process.

When we were tribal and indigenous, the shamans and medicine people lived among the people. They were mystics, however, they were also profoundly known as human. They ate, laughed, made mistakes, loved, and lived among the people. They were accepted, in fact revered, for the ability to live in both worlds. It also meant that if a medicine person became unbalanced, or abusive, or took advantage, there was no hiding that from the people. This not only helped protect the people, it supported the medicine person in their own work to stay balanced.

In our culture we find that there is a commercial market where people sometimes get disappointed to discover the humanness of a healer. In these cases they will not only abandon the healer, but at times also attack them, when their preconceived image of the person is deconstructed. Personally, I trust people more when I see their humanity. I prefer transparency and authenticity.

People criticizing or attacking a healer’s humanity has damaging repercussions. Some healers succumb to the pressure to always appear perfect and not only hide their issues, but also find themselves without resources and support for their own journey on Earth. In a culture that already endorses the notion of “if it doesn’t work, leave it, or get a new one,” it also means that people don’t get to learn acceptance, boundaries, or to redefine what ‘perfect’ looks like. We are all merely a work in progress, finding balance and fluidity.

We learn as much by others’ failings as by their teachings. Examples of imperfection is just as useful for achieving perfection as are models of competence and perfection ~ Magdeleine Sable

There is no one-size-fits-all formula, but for me, I like to know how someone, who I might let into my life to support me, is living their own life. What life issues have they confronted and how did they overcome their own adversity? No matter how much I know about someone’s Earth life, when they put on their medicine hat, the mysticism begins, despite any human shortcomings. Gifts, powers, talents, can never be fully explained, only experienced, in awe.

I have met many extraordinarily talented medicine people – but also so unbalanced in their own Earth journey that I find them toxic. I have compassion, but also do not want their energy in my arena of healing. I might go to a class they offer, but that is it. That is my choice. Others I know will tolerate behaviors I would not, in order to have an ‘experience’ with someone’s particular brand of medicine.

It is up to each individual to carefully approach the well-constructed public persona of people who are in the healing industries. Pay attention to their character, their behaviors, consistencies, and red flags. Remember our own unhealed areas will attract ‘lesson people’ to show us where we still need some work. Going slowly, combining intuition with logic, and looking at our own ego challenges, we can enter gently into a relationship, rather than diving in head first. If stories don’t make sense, if there is lack of detail, or too much of a good or exciting story, wait and see. If a medicine person is reluctant to disclose, that may be because they have been attacked or betrayed in the past, or maybe they just have something to hide. So, again, wait and see.

Let’s not, however, diminish the magical mystery tour because we are cynical about other people’s human frailty. Even if I know every embarrassing detail or every flaw of a medicine person’s life, when they are in their gift, I am still honored and awed. It is not easy to be a human. And it is much, much more challenging to be both a medicine person and a human, than to be a ‘muggle.’

As your own gifts develop, chose to not create an ‘image’ or ‘persona,’ unless you are clearly performing, either creatively or in a ceremony. Let’s support each other by encouraging authenticity, disclosure, and personal growth, no matter how much talent there is. Let us allow each other to work our  magic, without mystifying the human who wields the gift. Let’s eliminate grandiosity. We are grand enough, just the way we are.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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