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I Cannot Help You, Only You Can Do That

Get a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comNo one can help anyone, really. We can share our experience, strength and hope (as it is said in 12 Step meetings). But all the great tools are just that – tools. Tools don’t use themselves; people use tools.

Inspirational speeches and motivational programs can indeed be helpful, however it can become a kind of drug. It will not ensure your ultimate self-realization. Motivation ultimately needs to come from a Higher Source and an Internal Source – otherwise we risk becoming a slave to someone who makes us feel good.

Additionally, motivation is not always the necessary ingredient. Sometimes we simply need self-discipline, which is not a popular concept in modern society. Self-discipline requires delayed gratification, which is the opposite of addiction, and is a hallmark of developmental maturity. Self-discipline does not mean we have to go all “boot camp” on our self, only put one foot in front of the other, and persist.

Do your work, and I shall know you. Do your work, and you shall reinforce yourself ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Good healers share their educated knowledge and their life experiences regarding their own healing journey, along with their specific Spiritual gifts and talents. But they cannot induce personal persistence in their clients, no matter how many emails and special deals they offer. Sadly the “get well”; “be skinny”; “become wealthy”; “meet your angels’; “find your soulmate” industry is full of these quick-fix promises. One session, or one session a month, is often not enough to get through a tough spot, or stuck thinking.

When I was a professor, I saw some of the best students come out of the worst schools, and some of the worst students come out of the best schools – making the professor at best, half the equation. In the healing  profession, the healer is also only a part of the solution. Along with the personal persistence of the person seeking guidance, Spirit and energies play a large part in personal progress.

The job of a healer, teacher, or shaman, as I see it, is to eventually become obsolete – except perhaps for emergencies. We show you the trail, talk to you about preparation and gear, walk part of the trail with you, and then we move to the background to support you as you journey off without the training wheels. You have to do the pedaling yourself, and you do have to travel the trail alone.

Not I, nor anyone else can travel that road for you. You must travel it by yourself. It is not far. It is within reach ~ Walt Whitman

I have not had a lot of luck or excellent results with the “feel good” industry. I don’t think I am very skilled in making people feel good just for the sake of feeling good. If people come to me looking to have a better understanding of what path they picked to travel this life, a stronger spiritual connection, and a physical body that is more a friend than foe, I can assist and support them.

Feeling good is not a good goal for me. But being good to the self is a nice goal. A side-effect of being good to the self is feeling good, no matter what life brings. Being good to the self, having a strong, relevant, and lively spiritual life means we are no longer so dependent on external gratification and validations to feel good. Now that is freedom! And that is the path to having a life filled with more serenity, and acceptance.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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