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I’m A Perfect Five On A Scale Of One To Ten
I’m a perfect ‘five’ on a scale of one to ten… and I love it! When we learn to be a five, we’re relishing the right to be okay, yet not to have to be a perfect ten. We would all like to be absolutely perfect. Yet, no one is. We would like our heroes, our crushes, our partners to be ‘the one’ by fulfilling all our needs, but we forget that in order for that to be, we too have to be a perfect ‘ten.’ Still, and perhaps, sadly, no one is.
The worst part is, when our beloved tries to change, we often doubt them. We wonder why he said this, or why he didn’t do that, because he always did before! We shouldn’t ask for changes if we don’t really want them. Changes hurt, just as pulling the splinter out sometimes hurts. It causes us to bleed, but in order to heal, the splinter has to come out. Continue reading
The Healing Power Of Empathetic Listening
“They don’t listen to anything I say,” are words we often hear. People long to be acknowledged, and from my experience this is something people in many parts of the world are missing, as we all rush from place to place. The inhabitants of a modern day home tend to become like passing ships in the night to their loved ones, and hardly communicate with one another.
Really listening to another goes straight to the heart. It opens the empath and the medical intuitive’s eyes to that which any X-ray or computerized tomography (CT) scan cannot. Active listening is the most powerful catalyst for change in any healing therapy. Continue reading
Forgiveness – A Message From My Guides
Ah, forgiveness! Such a misunderstood word. Many people assume that, although it sounds noble to forgive someone, forgiveness is often impossible. They feel that certain sins are so severe that the transgressor doesn’t deserve any forgiveness at all.
Also, there is a pervasive feeling that if you forgive someone, you are somehow excusing their infractions. Do not be confused. Whether you are forgiving someone who has hurt your feelings, stolen from you or caused you bodily harm, the reasoning is the same.
You are not letting the transgressor off the hook, or turning a blind eye to the wrong that was done to you. You are not condoning said transgression or justifying it in any way. Nor are you giving the wrong-doer a free pass to re-offend, or making an exception for him or her. Continue reading
Charity – A Message From My Guides
Charity does begin at home. Whether you think of charity as alms for the impoverished, or kindness to strangers, or perhaps non-judgment in times of questionable behavior by others, it is still imperative to look within first. Before you can be truly charitable to others, it is important to be kind to yourself first. Ultimately, you cannot give to others freely and easily that which you do not give to yourself.
You are a loving and giving being. However, sometimes you are your own worst critic and have nothing but fault to find when you come up short regarding lofty expectations of yourself.
Sometimes you have set this bar so high that you are incapable of reaching the goals within your estimated timeline. Sometimes life intervenes in your best laid plans and deadlines are missed. Sometimes you self-sabotage from fear of success, or failure. Each of these instances can cause undue stress, which is not only harmful to you, but also to the people in your circle. Continue reading
Live. Laugh. Love.
Do you feel unfulfilled? Stuck in a rut? Try to live, laugh and love a little more… for these are the three L’s of fulfillment.
Live
Firstly, to attain lasting fulfillment it is necessary to actually live your life. This is especially important for anyone who feels stuck in their life or circumstances. I sometimes come across clients that are so bound by their routines that they are unwilling to see a different way.
To have a fulfilling life we must be willing to engage with life in a dynamic way. Take a proactive approach and shedding some of your routines. There are often very simple ways to engage in shifting stagnant routines. It can be as simple as taking the long way to or from work and appreciating the scenery of the new way. Continue reading
You Are Enough
You are enough. If only, as we grew up, we had heard more such words, even if there was an additional “… and yet strive for more”. The fact is we were raised in a world where competition is prevalent; where our insecurities are often emphasized to us, or used as leverage (intentionally or otherwise); where our personal beliefs about ourselves potentially delays our soul evolution.
As partners in the Universe we say to ourselves, “Everything has a reason, we each have a soul purpose, all is in Divine Order.” Yet, when a tragedy or life shattering moment hits, we are so intimately impacted that we have to dig deep to console ourselves and try to reframe that that tragedy has a Divine purpose, and that you have enough and are enough in that moment. Continue reading