Friends, as opposed to acquaintances or associates, are a rare find. We are typically a society of users and takers, where social networking has erroneously become synonymous with friendship. In fact, friendship and networking has very little in common.
As children of the Information Age, we have become acculturated to disconnection as a norm, merely using each other and calling it friendship when it is mutually beneficial, and calling it a variety of unsavory names when it is not mutually beneficial. Friendship for business and networking is quite different from true friendship. Read the rest of this entry »
Many industrialized nations place a great deal of emphasis on being special and getting noticed. These days you can become a celebrated just for existing in the public eye, such as Paris Hilton and the Kardashian family.
Many people would never admit they have this desire or need; many do not notice how ingrained this is in the culture of our society. Yet, many people get psychic and spiritual readings, because they want to be told about their Mission, Purpose or Special Gifts. Many people I work with also have an unbelievable plethora of undefined and persistent physical and psychological ailments that disappear when the person gets busy, or starts being of real service to others.
This leads me to wonder if an egocentric existence, promoted by the mainstream media and bought by the consumer, isn’t one of our primary ailments. Is it not making many of us prime targets for inflated self-importance and grandiosity? Read the rest of this entry »
In truth, no one can really help anyone else. We can share our experience, strength and hope. And all the great self-help tools are just that – tools. Tools don’t use themselves… people use tools.
Motivational speeches and mutual encouragement can indeed be helpful. There is obviously a reason why the motivational speaking field is a billion dollar industry. However, it can become a kind of drug. Motivation ultimately needs to come from a Higher Source and an internal source. Otherwise we risk becoming a mere slave to someone else making us feel good.
Additionally, motivation is not always the necessary ingredient. Sometimes we simply need some self-discipline – which is currently not a popular trend in our society. Read the rest of this entry »
What is faith? That’s a really good question! I was raised an atheist and was taught life and all that happened was solely the result of my own efforts – meaning all failure was my fault and all success came from my efforts.
Whew! This is at the heart of American culture. Just do it. No fear.
Even the New Agers believe if it happened to you it is because you were thinking it. The ultimate guilt trip. This means, I can have no bad thoughts or they will manifest like the devil itself… and it will be all my fault.
I know for a fact the New Agers are wrong, because with the amount of pain and tough issues I have had to process so far in my life, I should have been able to blow up the world by now. Read the rest of this entry »
Many psychics tell people what they want to hear. Some do this because they are frauds, some do this because they want to be loved and admired by another person, and some because they are not very talented, or they just want to get you to come back and spend more money. It is hard to find honest, reputable psychics, just like it is hard to find a great car mechanic, or lawyer.
I have been told, “You’re wrong!” Or, “I don’t agree with you.” I typically get these responses from people when I tell them something they do not want to hear in a psychic reading.
For example, I told someone they had an Ancestral Spirit present helping them, who is Russian military. “Oh no, I am Scot-Irish,” said she irately. She did call back months later to confirm that after some research she discovered she did indeed have Russian military in her background. Read the rest of this entry »
It is a bit of conundrum that we have this Western culture desire to achieve a goal of enlightenment… and then we die. This is like rushing through a vacation and obsessing if we are ‘doing it right.’ What is ‘right’ anyway? We each are completely different people on our own individual journey.
After we achieve our life lesson and our chosen destiny for this life, we cross over. So really, what is the rush? So, we can get onto the next what? Vacation? Job? Lover?
Whether it is music, art, great food, lovemaking… we participate in these so we can be engaged and engulfed in a full, all-consuming, memorable experience – not an end result.
One of the reasons people enjoy doing something very physical or demanding (including creating crises or drama in our lives) is because a challenge (or crises) demands our full attention. It forces us to be completely present, completely engaged and this allows us to immerse our self in enjoying or engaging in the task at hand. Read the rest of this entry »
In modern society we are all about ‘just do it’ and ‘no fear.’ We worship Yang energy – the energy of doing-ness. The power of the flow, the wisdom of psychic guidance is the opposite – don’t just do something, sit there! The problem is, we are afraid that if we hold still we are quitting, resigning, giving up, procrastinating. So we live in a culture that prefers to emphasize the Yang, and shy away from the Yin.
Have you ever tried to get through to a friend who will just not shut up? That is how it is for Spirit, God, Source, the Universe. When we don’t hold still and shut up, nothing else can come in to guide us. We are then at the mercy of our crazy, human mind with its puny imagination, limited by the imagined boundaries typical of earth plane thinking. Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, today a gift from Spirit. That is why it is called ‘the present.’ The present is indeed a gift – one that is often ignored. At any given moment we can become miserable. Life is a constant series of choices and decisions. We decide what we want to pay attention to, and what we let go.
This can be a dangerous path. If you are in denial; unconsciously running away from your feelings; living in a fantasy world; using unrealistic thinking; or abuse drugs or alcohol; you can indeed ignore reality and red flags.
There is a balance. We live in the world, but we do not control it. A wonderful saying from the Twelve-Step Program is, “Do the footwork, let go of the results.” One can add to that… ‘don’t forget to smell the roses.’ Read the rest of this entry »