The students that committed suicide at the colleges where I taught were always the brightest stars, known for being happy, and helpful to others. People were always shocked when they chose suicide.
America worships ‘happy’ and ‘positive attitude.’ What is our aversion to the so-called ‘negative’? Why are we rejected for being a ‘downer’?
If a person is truly happy and content from the inside out, someone else’s upset mood, depression or anxiety will not affect you! People react badly to ‘negativity’ because it stirs up their own unresolved issues. It makes them feel their unresolved issues. Read the rest of this entry »
Perfection. When we are a ball of light on the Other Side, there is only one kind of perfection. But here on Earth, fluidity of movement, acceptance, surrender, flowing into change… this is perfection. Earth perfection is the ability to fully embrace, love, laugh at, and survive the roller-coaster ride we chose before we came here.
Many healers and therapists sell themselves, in part, by projecting a public image… and sadly, many of their followers are mostly attracted to only that image. Why is that? Perhaps the idea of having an ‘ideal’ allows people to kind of let themselves off the hook, by declaring, “Well, I can never be perfect like her!” Or maybe we just like the idea that somehow our idea of perfection really does exist. Read the rest of this entry »
Humans have an electro-magnetic energy field, which is why we have medical technology like magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scans. In Chinese philosophy and Taoism it is believed that this energy field consists of the dualistic energies of Yin and Yang. They are direct opposites, but also interdependent and complimentary to each other. We need good a balance of the two for optimal well-being, happiness and personal fulfillment.
Yang energy is the electric, active energy, full of outward movement. Too much Yang can make a person overbearing, impatient, impulsive. American culture tends to worship Yang energy. Think of slogans like “Just do it” and “No fear.” Read the rest of this entry »
I have heard disturbing stories of metaphysical gurus and spiritual teachers sexually exploiting their followers or people under their care. This raises questions around the ethics of being in a helping profession, and also how to be on the receiving end of such help or support. Is the spiritual community paying enough attention to red flags and boundaries?
When do we set boundaries? One does not want to be too paranoid, however waiting too long might send the wrong message, like “your behavior is okay.” We want the help, but sometimes the price we are asked to pay is not so clear. I shall explore the intricacies, the dance, of this aspect of a helping relationship through the narrative below. Read the rest of this entry »
Living among the muggles* I have spent decades hiding my secret life as a spiritual being. I remember as a child being terrified thinking my mother (a therapist) might put me in a funny farm. I even made my big brother promise he would not let that happen! Poor guy. He was worried for me too…
I was always so strange. I was a full-blown flower child, a starseed who thought the world existed for us to share, and that we are meant to support each other. And for decades I was able to live in and create that around me. I look back now and wonder how I managed not to get robbed, raped, or killed? I wandered through most of my life trusting absolutely everyone. Read the rest of this entry »
I recently heard someone say that meditation makes them feel “depressed.” Really? Not dealing with issues is what makes us depressed, not meditation!
Suppressing our old hurts or fears can cause depression. What we do, typically, is to layer “fun”, mindless entertainment and other frivolous distractions on top of the stinking swamp of our unhealed wounds – be they soul wounds or childhood wounds, or anything in between. This is like using air freshener, rather than take out the garbage.
The pursuit of “fun” is the modern drug of choice. We self-medicate by shopping on credit, forcing ourselves into insane “adventures”, attending endless social events, indulging in sexual excess, overeating, abusing drugs and alcohol, or participating in yet another spiritual workshop, seminar or retreat that promises to be the ultimate solution to our life. We indulge in these hedonistic pursuits to keep our oozing emotional wounds in check. Read the rest of this entry »
It is quite a common occurrence to hear people talk about experiences using the word “you” instead of “I”. Why is that? Many therapist types do not say “I” as the mainstream profession discourages too much disclosure – a protocol I abhor.
I personally want to know who is trying to assist me. Is it some book educated youngster, or someone who has lived some authentic life lessons close to my own challenges? I prefer the latter, but it is hard to find out if your “therapist” ever struggled with drugs, poverty, sexual orientation, suicide, and so forth. What a shame that this is the trend in psychology and other helping professions. Read the rest of this entry »
Raising your spiritual energy is a life changer. As your talents, gifts and skills skyrocket, so will your sensitivities. Do not be in a rush, let Spirit handle your development. In your awakened state as “dragon rider” the planetary transits will rock you, and solar storms will send you to bed.
As you grow, you will find your tolerance level for nonsense plummeting. Spending time in social drinking, foolish pursuits, or inane conversations will become an anathema instead of a fun way to spend an afternoon. When you begin to read minds, then you have to learn to have superficial conversations in spite of what you pick up from others. Sometimes what you pick up will slip out in conversation and you will find yourself losing “friends” – who now find you too intense, or too honest for comfort. Read the rest of this entry »