It is a bit of conundrum that we have this Western culture desire to achieve a goal of enlightenment… and then we die. This is like rushing through a vacation and obsessing if we are ‘doing it right.’ What is ‘right’ anyway? We each are completely different people on our own individual journey.
After we achieve our life lesson and our chosen destiny for this life, we cross over. So really, what is the rush? So, we can get onto the next what? Vacation? Job? Lover?
Whether it is music, art, great food, lovemaking… we participate in these so we can be engaged and engulfed in a full, all-consuming, memorable experience – not an end result.
One of the reasons people enjoy doing something very physical or demanding (including creating crises or drama in our lives) is because a challenge (or crises) demands our full attention. It forces us to be completely present, completely engaged and this allows us to immerse our self in enjoying or engaging in the task at hand. Read the rest of this entry »
In modern society we are all about ‘just do it’ and ‘no fear.’ We worship Yang energy – the energy of doing-ness. The power of the flow, the wisdom of psychic guidance is the opposite – don’t just do something, sit there! The problem is, we are afraid that if we hold still we are quitting, resigning, giving up, procrastinating. So we live in a culture that prefers to emphasize the Yang, and shy away from the Yin.
Have you ever tried to get through to a friend who will just not shut up? That is how it is for Spirit, God, Source, the Universe. When we don’t hold still and shut up, nothing else can come in to guide us. We are then at the mercy of our crazy, human mind with its puny imagination, limited by the imagined boundaries typical of earth plane thinking. Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, today a gift from Spirit. That is why it is called ‘the present.’ The present is indeed a gift – one that is often ignored. At any given moment we can become miserable. Life is a constant series of choices and decisions. We decide what we want to pay attention to, and what we let go.
This can be a dangerous path. If you are in denial; unconsciously running away from your feelings; living in a fantasy world; using unrealistic thinking; or abuse drugs or alcohol; you can indeed ignore reality and red flags.
There is a balance. We live in the world, but we do not control it. A wonderful saying from the Twelve-Step Program is, “Do the footwork, let go of the results.” One can add to that… ‘don’t forget to smell the roses.’ Read the rest of this entry »
The students that committed suicide at the colleges where I taught were always the brightest stars, known for being happy, and helpful to others. People were always shocked when they chose suicide.
America worships ‘happy’ and ‘positive attitude.’ What is our aversion to the so-called ‘negative’? Why are we rejected for being a ‘downer’?
If a person is truly happy and content from the inside out, someone else’s upset mood, depression or anxiety will not affect you! People react badly to ‘negativity’ because it stirs up their own unresolved issues. It makes them feel their unresolved issues. Read the rest of this entry »
Perfection. When we are a ball of light on the Other Side, there is only one kind of perfection. But here on Earth, fluidity of movement, acceptance, surrender, flowing into change… this is perfection. Earth perfection is the ability to fully embrace, love, laugh at, and survive the roller-coaster ride we chose before we came here.
Many healers and therapists sell themselves, in part, by projecting a public image… and sadly, many of their followers are mostly attracted to only that image. Why is that? Perhaps the idea of having an ‘ideal’ allows people to kind of let themselves off the hook, by declaring, “Well, I can never be perfect like her!” Or maybe we just like the idea that somehow our idea of perfection really does exist. Read the rest of this entry »
Humans have an electro-magnetic energy field, which is why we have medical technology like magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scans. In Chinese philosophy and Taoism it is believed that this energy field consists of the dualistic energies of Yin and Yang. They are direct opposites, but also interdependent and complimentary to each other. We need good a balance of the two for optimal well-being, happiness and personal fulfillment.
Yang energy is the electric, active energy, full of outward movement. Too much Yang can make a person overbearing, impatient, impulsive. American culture tends to worship Yang energy. Think of slogans like “Just do it” and “No fear.” Read the rest of this entry »
I have heard disturbing stories of metaphysical gurus and spiritual teachers sexually exploiting their followers or people under their care. This raises questions around the ethics of being in a helping profession, and also how to be on the receiving end of such help or support. Is the spiritual community paying enough attention to red flags and boundaries?
When do we set boundaries? One does not want to be too paranoid, however waiting too long might send the wrong message, like “your behavior is okay.” We want the help, but sometimes the price we are asked to pay is not so clear. I shall explore the intricacies, the dance, of this aspect of a helping relationship through the narrative below. Read the rest of this entry »
Living among the muggles* I have spent decades hiding my secret life as a spiritual being. I remember as a child being terrified thinking my mother (a therapist) might put me in a funny farm. I even made my big brother promise he would not let that happen! Poor guy. He was worried for me too…
I was always so strange. I was a full-blown flower child, a starseed who thought the world existed for us to share, and that we are meant to support each other. And for decades I was able to live in and create that around me. I look back now and wonder how I managed not to get robbed, raped, or killed? I wandered through most of my life trusting absolutely everyone. Read the rest of this entry »