At an early age, I learned to use logic when others caused me to feel a pang of guilt. That’s how I neutralize guilt trips. I deal with it directly by discussion with the other person, stating my true intentions. I simply make it clear that they interpreted my intentions incorrectly, for example.
Female members of my extended family tended to ‘play the guilt card’ when their expectations were not being met, such as when I was not visiting them often enough. But if their desire to see me came from pure joy and love, it would come from the heart. I would feel loved, not guilty! And I told them this straight up. Read the rest of this entry »
Have you ever heard of the term ‘monkey mind?’ It originates from ancient Chinese and Japanese Buddhist teachings. We all experience it from time to time. In contrast to thinking clearly, monkey mind feels restless, unsettled, unfocused and uncontrollable. We think too much about the next text message, passing an exam, being able to pay next month’s bills, and whatever else lies in our fear centers.
This state of mind can take over if not managed, resulting in high anxiety. We lose our ability to think or to connect with what lies beneath these runaway thoughts. Our thoughts adopt a distorted sense of reality; we act on them only to find that the other person has no idea what we are talking about. Read the rest of this entry »
Most people only call a psychic when they need quick answers that are not apparent through the ordinary senses, or to clarify a confusing situation. They want to go beyond the moment and look into the future to know exactly what will happen and when.
Without having met a person, some want to know whether they are the one they will ultimately marry. Others want to know whether they will get grades good enough to pass an exam, or whether they will buy the next house the realtor shows them, or get a job where they’ve interviewed.
The answers to these questions as they are asked require a yes or no answer. If the answer is yes, it makes us feel invulnerable, that no matter what happens between now and then, no matter what we do — we can still cling to the hope and belief in the prediction. We get the ‘quick fix’ boost to compensate for the confidence and faith we lack. Read the rest of this entry »
Dreams represent messages from the unconscious to reveal our innermost psyche — that which is not known or acknowledged by our conscious self. Dreams are windows to the unconscious, the intuitive part of ourselves. Carl Jung calls this “the shadow.”
According to Jung, the shadow represents non-thought the conscious thought process does not wish to acknowledge. For example, many people have dreams that foretell of events, but consciously it may be too painful or threatening for them to consciously consider. The shadow-self thus protects us, until the message becomes too powerful and breaks through in a dream. Read the rest of this entry »
The notion of starting the year 2017 with forgiveness might set off a chain reaction of resistant thoughts, about why you can’t possibly forgive this or that person who has done you so wrong. Maybe you remember all the betrayal, mean words and deeds, the abandonment, the cheating — and your get angry and outraged all over again. I know. I’ve indulged in these thoughts myself. And in most cases, I’ve forgiven… Yeah, okay, I admit it’s not easy.
But, I also know that forgiveness is liberating! It sets you free, so you can use your senses, emotions and thoughts fully for your positive gain, and to live life to the fullest. Take out or create that vision board and focus on who you are and where you want to go. Enjoy the moment, live in the present and create your desired future, because what usually holds us back are unresolved feelings and experiences from the past. Read the rest of this entry »
A crime committed against me has dominated my thoughts and actions for the past year. Just when it quiets down, and I have a brief respite, an event or something in my environment recalls it to my consciousness. Then I have to deal with it all over again, its poison renewing and growing in my mind like a malignant tumor.
In my life, there have been only two previous events that have overtaken me like this: a divorce and a serious vehicle accident. Time, mourning and forgiveness released me from those two events. Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve been friends with Gail and Paul since they were my neighbors in San Francisco, 22 years ago. This was long before today’s popularity of digital technology and our growing dependence on wireless, hand-held devices, such as our smart phones, tablets, laptops, and now even our watches.
Our homes were next to each other and the backyards adjacent. Over the fence, we exchanged conversation, shared Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, and frequent “tastes” of new recipes. Life happened and in time they moved away. Later, I also moved, but we continued to exchange phone calls and written notes.
For the past ten years, I have been living in the Pacific Northwest, a mere three hour drive from Gail and Paul. We eventually reconnected and now keep in touch mostly through Facebook posts, videos and photos. Gail chronicles their life on the farm they now own. Through social media, she’s inspired me to also grow vegetables and fruits, and I’ve inspired her to save seeds from harvests to plant the next Spring. Read the rest of this entry »
Automatic writing means writing without conscious thought and is essentially a way of channeling messages from Spirit and the subconscious. Instead of physically writing on paper, I personally use a pendulum and an alphabet chart. Some mediums write on paper, and others employ automatic drawing.
In preparation for a session with myself or a client, I first clear the energy in the space around me, my pendulum and my chart. Then my guides show me who is present by each moving the pendulum in a specific pattern that they have chosen. I ask permission to know the answers I seek. Very rarely have I been denied, but always for a reason. Usually either for myself or a client, it’s because of thinking too much about the subject. Spirit is saying: “Stop It!” I call that “tough love.” Read the rest of this entry »