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I know that I am being given information that to a large part cannot be identified or classified. This means when you ask a question, the cards will deliver a message – but I cannot always parse what the message is pertaining to – the present, the near future, the outcome, or a channel. I am an empath too, but in this article I am talking about the Tarot cards, which is a specific way of gaining information in a hard copy format.

When I start reading for you, I will give you a general overview without you giving me any details. This is to free associate – not to impress you, but to get a feel before we get going. I will keep the cards out after we have talked, and I can then go over the information. Read the rest of this entry »

Just the concept of someone being in a position of knowing anything, no matter the type of expert they are can be intimidating for all of us. Add to that the creepy sounding  title of snooping around in someone’s heads without their permission can be intriguing to most people, but what if we don’t know who the person is who is determining the consequences of these thoughts?

Imagine the inconsistency between judgments and actual outcomes if we predetermined a relationship based on what a person was thinking now. For example:  him thinking he wants to marry you does not mean he will marry you. Or thinking of ending it with you is not necessarily what he will do so, nor if he thinks of dating other women that he will. Read the rest of this entry »

I used to have the notion that the way we would as humans become attached or bonded to each other was through our unique fingerprints, and the way we fit as people. To me, it seemed inconceivable that two people could share anything in common if they did not get on, share the same interests, or have that enviable chemistry we so mistake for romantic love. In my experience, and through the experiences of others, I noted that most of us seemed to lapse into these easier sets of relationships – the ones that seemed effortless and spirited, and based on this – that empathy deepened and that relationships had a better quality due to this shared agreement.

To my chagrin and delight I was introduced to a more interesting notion of bonding – this one not through just the pure transference of personality, common interests or passions – but values, shared experience, and shared suffering. We still identify with each other, whether we know each other personally or not. Read the rest of this entry »

What happens when you fool the psychic? I am certain a small portion of my callers ‘test the psychic’. This is part of our job. Often we get questions like: ‘What am I thinking now?’ or ‘Tell me about Mark’ (not telling me it’s her husband, and setting the question so that with a retort like “He’s my husband” and ending a conversation, without my being able to explain perhaps what he is really feeling and why). Other techniques are easy to spot, such as clients laughing or snickering during the reading.

I deal with these cases very patiently because I am probably picking up on another dominant energy in their life, and as a card reader can tell as they are asking the question, which question is being asked. It’s like a running log of the client’s questions, possible answers, and the subsequent ‘report’ which will tell me, as the reader, whether the client is lying or not. Read the rest of this entry »

I do not want to reinforce the notion that empaths need to be sensitive, vulnerable, or peace loving. There are angry ones out there too!

Highly sensitive people sometimes are a little self conscious, sometimes defensive, often times needing a lot of attention and care. This ranges all the way from the spectrum of highly sensitive people to people who do not appear to be compassionate. All people want approval. Does this sound like you?

It can sometimes become such an obsession for any empathic personality to please others and they can often let themselves be lead, and frequently feel the need approval. All of us are this way, but I need to stress you don’t have to be a bleeding heart empath to be a good one! Read the rest of this entry »

Are empaths more compassionate people? Not necessarily. This would be like asking, “is the human race kind and caring?”

Empaths do have an edge; we possess a fundamental understanding of human nature which makes us more flexible, open-minded and more inquisitive and, perhaps to the detriment of some, the tendency to be more patient or long-suffering by nature.

Many people are empaths and are managing their emotions through others – this being their unconscious game. These people are generally going through crisis, although they appear compassionate and empathic.

One can usually recognize a more sensitive individual by the look in their eyes. You may ask, “What do you mean the eyes?”  There is a difference; some empaths are ‘switched on’ and others are simply surviving life. They will course with anyone complimenting or augmenting their emotion, regardless of the consequences. Read the rest of this entry »

There are effective coping mechanisms empaths can employ against bullying.

I would like to preface this with good news: As a sensitive I have an advantage against them. I have a great advantage knowing the bullies or harassers weak-points, knowing when to take their concerns seriously, and when to not let it take over my life. Relationships have these qualities, and if you can do this with one person, you can do this with many.

I can assure you this: most people who harass or lie do not know themselves and have certain weaknesses, which is something I will illustrate in a later blog. Even as a compassionate empath, I occasionally get ‘tickled’ watching them perpetually work against themselves – like an endless, comedic skit of someone setting a trap for someone and then falling into that trap they set themselves. Read the rest of this entry »