Just the concept of someone being in a position of knowing anything, no matter the type of expert they are can be intimidating for all of us. Add to that the creepy sounding title of snooping around in someone’s heads without their permission can be intriguing to most people, but what if we don’t know who the person is who is determining the consequences of these thoughts?
Imagine the inconsistency between judgments and actual outcomes if we predetermined a relationship based on what a person was thinking now. For example: him thinking he wants to marry you does not mean he will marry you. Or thinking of ending it with you is not necessarily what he will do so, nor if he thinks of dating other women that he will. This knowledge applied to someone’s situation from this highly personal and unsolicited context of interpreting their innermost desires and is extremely personal in nature and perhaps unwarranted sometimes. If the empathic advisor is to stay 100% ethical, they should always listen to the partner, and not let the client know how they were feeling in the first place and this is unrealistic.
So in a sense I do understand that reading someone’s mind or intentions can be seen as breaching ethics if the third party does not have time to formulate their defense or explanation. After all, if they don’t how they are doing is affecting someone, they may not find a way out of the problem as they don’t see it. This can be taken into the legal context, which would cross into the territory of ‘premeditated crimes’ (based on ideations – cutting the person off before they have time to implement their thoughts) or into the extreme sense, judging a person for having a thought that they may or may not act on. For example: I could kill him or her! Does that mean we have all expressed intent to kill, and should we not all be locked up if this were strictly applied before we committed murder?
I know to a good extent many crimes and many wrongs are committed out of nothing – without premeditated thought or intent to act. So can we really know if someone is going to do something based on their impulses? Or even via their personality profile (which is what I do best). Does thought equal potential action? Can one take a person’s profile and apply it to random events and get the same results?
This is the conundrum I face almost daily when telling my client about an outcome that despite what he is wanting to do, what he may end up doing. As you know, I work on getting answers on outcomes through my cards. But in going into the private moment of someone’s bad day, I am not always certain if I can stamp their relationship with that moment in time’s reading based on my mood when interpreting it. This does bother me, which is why I prefer to focus on working on a solution in the present moment to facilitate communication or resolution for that moment. being mindful of this notion.
In essence to some extent, this idea if taken to an extreme is as bad as adding an extra commandment stating, ‘Thou shalt not think any bad thoughts’, in the broadest context. This is the most difficult thing in our society now: When all we see is violence, sexual aggression and money, what is going to prevent us from desiring them or at least trying to see if we desire them? Can the thought police really judge someone based on their buying habits, the friends they have, and the emotions they express through email – which I know is different than how they see themselves? People lie in their communications all the time, which is why it is important to figure out just how destructive this lie may or may not be. This is the enormous responsibility one has as a person who translates or interprets someone’s thoughts for you.
I sometimes wonder what the boyfriend or partner could be wanting for themselves when I am talking to their significant other, and I try and respect their need to present their case in a fair and sincere manner. With certain clients I can go into more depth, but I do wonder if I am not judging their partner unfairly or prematurely based on their momentary moods. I find as we work further into the relationship I may even start taking their side, based only on their true response to the client, and in a sense I am ‘role playing’ or assuming their person for a while. I then have to think about how he would like the problem presented – after all, if there is a chance that he would like something more with a client I will try not to thwart this by showing off to my client, and he needs more time I will keep his secret too, if that will help ensnare you (which you secretly want anyway!). I then have to read your mind, but I know I have your permission to do so, but I know you would and my clients always do want to present their case so that they can figure out a solution by talking about it. In a sense there is a delicacy and forethought involved in communicating to certain clients things all at once, and I do appreciate any time I am given to explain just how complex your situation is and how to navigate it and improve it.
In a sense, my first goal is to not take sides, but to simply communicate what he is feeling, as if I were a stenographer. I must remember too that I do not really know this person, and can only put the reading into context of what information you can perhaps later give me. I sometimes see a lot of private information come up in these readings that I may not share with my client for a number of reasons – sometimes because it is extraneous, or because it may not apply, or because I sense this person needs time to figure this problem out in their head. This means I may not point out your worst fears – sometimes you have to ask me – and again, I have to remind my clients routinely, that I am picking up on their current situation, and just how unethical it can seem to be pre-arranging an outcome for another party. Surely they would dislike being talked about? Or is it not better than her going to her married best friend who will surely discourage her, unlike the more neutral and supportive information you can get from a psychic or advisor?
And last but not least, I have found the biggest fault in my readings. My client will ask: “What does he want?” and actually mean to ask “What will he do?” I then have to explain to each client that inherently he is not sure due to this insecurity or I am bringing up their deepest darkest secrets, their insecurities, just how much they like my client etc. And I have to ask myself, would he like it if I phrased it like that?
I think about these things every day, also in good part because I get to know some of these men through my clients! I often wonder if they would match up in real life, or if I am seeing their deepest selves, a place even unfamiliar to them – and whether it is fair enough to let someone else know what they desire before they even know themselves. Do they perhaps not just want to stay there? Is that not their right or prerogative? It’s like intellectual psychic property for me: I deeply respect the third party and occasionally will even try and help him let go, if what he is doing is causing even more pain for both of you. I will always let you know what I am doing and remain above board, and try and let you know of any irregularities when you can absorb it, and when it’s most beneficial, but these situations are rare, usually we can cover a fair amount without breaching psychic etiquette. I can help you let him let you go – or come your way to him if he is willing – but I will never try and find a way for you to deceive him, as I too, as an empath would feel the result of that deceit.
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