Empaths do have an edge; we possess a fundamental understanding of human nature which makes us more flexible, open-minded and more inquisitive and, perhaps to the detriment of some, the tendency to be more patient or long-suffering by nature.
Many people are empaths and are managing their emotions through others – this being their unconscious game. These people are generally going through crisis, although they appear compassionate and empathic.
One can usually recognize a more sensitive individual by the look in their eyes. You may ask, “What do you mean the eyes?” There is a difference; some empaths are ‘switched on’ and others are simply surviving life. They will course with anyone complimenting or augmenting their emotion, regardless of the consequences.
Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not ~ Samuel Johnson
These people may appear sensitive, but what I generally look for is that ‘stunned look’, or the deer in the headlights expression. Sometimes there is a seemingly ‘paranoid’ or ‘overly sensitive’ appearance, with a clarity and sadness in their eyes, as if life had dealt them a definitive blow. They look like children at times, and I can read the inner child in these people. It is as if confidence and experience had not extinguished their basic soul essence.
In general you could note that their apparent ‘weakness’ would be understanding and an awareness within. Their successes have not robbed them of their past suffering and the value of their lessons and their failures are naturally accepted as part of life. Bear in mind, they may have a type of ‘victim’ look, as more than likely they have felt the person’s intentions when they were being hurt by them. They may also seem to have a questioning quality.
Many of us switch off when we get hurt, but some of us will ask why we are being rejected or singled out and can anticipate it long before it happens. Many empaths self-sabotage relationships, because they can sense the other person’s inherent flaws long in advance and anticipate their actions – not only because they are very experienced in other skills such as body language, but due to them sensing the other person’s mindset and the eventual outcome of the relationship. In essence, a problem can arise, be created or hastened due to this anticipation of another person’s behavior.
Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see ~ Mark Twain
The average person’s confidence depends on approval, but the empath may hear and accept disapproval more than the average person, albeit sometimes too acutely. Thus they try and prevent the same course of action being leveraged against others by nurturing more intensely. This unfortunately often sets them up for disappointment, as their partner may most likely not be a nurturer and return the effort.
This necessary component of society and survival – the sense of humanity and compassion – is only reserved for the most sensitive among us. There is a certain portion of our population who are natural born fighters and defenders, who are not meant for the role of consolation or tender negotiation. There is nothing ‘wrong’ with them, they are simply not born to be care-givers, though fortunately this can be improved over a life time.
Usually the non-empath has to go through tremendous personal loss that will allow them to understand their own actions in their relationships, thus learning later in life to anticipate emotions and prevent this from occurring with their friends and partners.
In comparison there is a natural born clarity in an empath – a susceptibility and sensitivity that cannot simply be learned. Perhaps this is due to their upbringing, or their genetics, but we do not know what predisposes some people to nurture others naturally, whilst others do not.
If you are wondering if you are too sensitive or you compare yourself to others frequently, you are probably a better empath. And if you compare yourself to others you probably are more sensitive to what others need, and will look out for their needs, constantly fine tuning your intuition. This natural receptiveness to nurture and protect is very much needed in our society. It means you care more than the average person, and you should consider yourself unique and foster this ability, embracing your own humanity.
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