I would like to preface this with good news: As a sensitive I have an advantage against them. I have a great advantage knowing the bullies or harassers weak-points, knowing when to take their concerns seriously, and when to not let it take over my life. Relationships have these qualities, and if you can do this with one person, you can do this with many.
I can assure you this: most people who harass or lie do not know themselves and have certain weaknesses, which is something I will illustrate in a later blog. Even as a compassionate empath, I occasionally get ‘tickled’ watching them perpetually work against themselves – like an endless, comedic skit of someone setting a trap for someone and then falling into that trap they set themselves.
First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win ~ Mahatma Gandhi
My biggest fear was to know that someone did not like me, but it has since evolved into the knowledge that they did not know me and they did not know themselves, or who their own friends or enemies were. This knowledge, as well as other strengths I have developed under severe duress, has made me an unaffected negotiator and someone who can decide when to take action against them or not – no matter how much pain they are in, how much compassion they may need, or how much tenderness they may lack.
I will tell you this: the moment you display any success, you will – and I repeat – you will be bullied. I prefer to call it harassed. I am a victim of harassment, and I have gotten to know many perpetrators over time, through daily life, through my clients, and through their experiences. We see it happen all the time, these actions by people we trust the most. But you too can refuse to become someone that needs to defend yourself against other people’s idle lies.
Left unchecked, these people do have bad things happen to them in turn that are even worse. I am seeing the bullies get their bullying back, which is something I dislike seeing, because it seems so pointless.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim; accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself ~ Harvey Fierstein
To be truthful, I now have a lot of supporters in the ‘bullying community’. Many people in the media, and in our institutions, are now admitting to having been victims and are appalled that they mistook it for normal, or even worse, to be their fault.
Today’s mode of harassment is based on anonymous, extreme forms of communication, which means that the abuse has progressed into a classless, genderless, formless, and pointless form of bullying. It is not necessarily personal, but definitely a viral, mass consciousness.
The truth is that these bullies are bored individuals who can only work well in groups to attack, and it’s apparent even in developed societies. I have also seen my clients relationships deteriorate due to social networking – another form of social intimidation for many people – and so many of my clients are suffering due to these modes of communication.
This has nothing to do with intelligence. This has nothing to do with experience, but every psychologist knows how weaknesses shine through this behavior. I do believe that some of these bullies can recover from the abuses of our society that made them this way.
I am also here to assure you; those bullies do not have to concern you. You can be a sensitive without having to take on their pain! And for the very brave – get to know your bully, because they may need a hug.
© Carmen Miro 2011
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