Recently, I went to a stress management seminar and I am much calmer now, since using many of the skills I learned there. I was so happy about the results I achieved that I emailed the facilitator of the seminar and asked permission to share some of the basics with you.
At the seminar we were taught a set of ‘Distress Tolerance Tools’. The acronym you can use to remember this is ACCEPTS:
A – Activity. Go for a walk, take up swimming, get a hobby. Anything that takes your mind in a different direction for a while. The problem will still be there, but you should be able to see it with fresh eyes when you return.
C – Contribute. Volunteer in your community or work for a charity. For example, in many rural areas the fire department is run by volunteers. In the town I live in there is a ‘baby cupboard’ for young mothers to get diapers, blankets and formula for their infants. Read or play music at a rest home. Find somewhere to contribute. The possibilities are endless.
The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another ~ William James
C – Comparison. If you are reading this blog, you are most likely enjoying a better quality of life than the majority of the world’s population. Develop an attitude of gratitude for the positive things that you do have. Appreciate those things that you don’t have to stress about. Consider how much worse it could be. Count your blessings.
E – Emotions. Stress causes, or exacerbates emotions, especially the negative ones, such as depression, anxiety and fear. Keep it all in perspective and don’t take yourself too seriously.
P – Push away. I have a picture on my computer of one of my granddaughters laughing with abandon when she was about seven months old. I personally find it very hard to be negative when I see or hear a baby’s laughter. I have a journal and a planner to keep track of the problems, and the steps I need to take to resolve the issues. Once it’s written down, I consider it shelved for the time being. Just put it on the back burner.
There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won’t cure, but I don’t know many of them ~ Sylvia Plath
T – Thoughts. Be careful how you phrase thoughts. Thoughts become reality. Your subconscious doesn’t have a sense of humor; it takes everything literally – as fact. Thoughts like “this kid will be the death of me” or “my head is going to explode” or “I can’t do all this” are all things that should be phrased differently. Instead try “the 10 year old is testing the limits today” or “this is a pretty bad headache” or “this will be difficult, but I’ll see what I can do”. These reworked phrases still convey the message, but they are less confusing for your subconscious to process.
S – Sensation. By using various tools on our senses we can redirect or soften what we’re stressing over:
Smell – lavender, vanilla, jasmine and incense oils are the cleanest to burn. You can also use a scent that you have good associations with, like coffee or chocolate. Be creative.
Taste – Sweet and salty is what most of us crave when we’re in distress. Sour and spicy flavors help to ground us and shift the energy into a more positive direction. I have an anxiety disorder, so I hate crowds. In my purse I always carry a liquid sour candy spray. When I start feeling edgy, I just spray some of that in my mouth, melt-down averted.
Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency ~ Natalie Goldberg
Touch – Cold showers, snow, petting a cat… these are a few things you can do to de-stress. Make a ‘stress relief box’ by putting sand, cracked wheat, small polished stones, mud, or even flour into a container and sifting it through your hands between your fingers during times of stress.
Hearing – My personal favorite is thunderstorms. Unfortunately, they don’t happen just because I’m stressed. Fortunately, I do have a sound effects CD that simulates a thunderstorm. I just put my headphones on and listen. Soft music or chanting are good options too. Drumming very lightly on a small drum, or even a bucket, is also great. Use whatever you have laying around, while focusing on your breathing or heartbeat. It also aids in meditation.
Think about all these things and see how you can apply it in dealing with stress in your life. For more suggestions on this, check my schedule and visit me for a chat on PsychicAccess.com.
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