The assumption is made that empathic ability is the eye or window into another person’s soul. But ask yourself, what good is that if you do not know your own soul?
I have adopted the field of empathic work because I saw that it is a common problem for many.
We collect emotional information that we acquire from others, and it can affect us in different ways: we can allow their temporary emotional identity to overwhelm us; we could understand it; or we could ignore it.
What I have found is that most people are inherently empathic. This means, like a sponge they ‘mop-up’ their partner’s emotions and this can affect them – their choices within their lives, their subsequent relationships or their entire future.
In all people I see myself – none more, and not one a barleycorn less; And the good or bad I say of myself, I say of them ~ Walt Whitman
When you think about it, why do we make the relationship choices we do? I meet clients who feel they finally have an edge over their partner – an advantage essentially. The fatal flaw I see time and time again is that they are coloring the emotions they receive through their own filters.
This essentially means although you may be getting some of the actual information about a person or situation, your outlook, the way you see yourself and the way you know yourself may taint the accuracy of that information.
You may pick up fragments and not know truly how to apply this to a relationship, if you have not investigated your own emotional sources and your subjective ideals, or attempted to conquer your own ‘demons’ or emotions.
This is very challenging in our society, where being ‘bad’ or being strong and resilient has become a trend acceptable within our superficial social norms. This does not allow for failure to unfold a new part of ourselves.
It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others ~ Sydney J. Harris
It is a two way mirror. Through overstimulation by the media and the internet, without assessing how we can apply all this residual information to our circumstances, we miss obvious cues which may be trying to allow you to feel. The question you have to ask yourself is: “Do I need to feel the other person’s emotions, because I cannot feel?”
In light of this, though my mission is to enlighten people of their possibilities in feeling other people’s emotions, I find they are not applying it correctly, and thus could be making the problem worse.
You may have the edge, but do you know what makes a person tick? I have found the best empaths to truly be those who can make changes because they are strong, sacrificial people. They are people who tend to want to avoid inflicting pain on others, due to the experiences they have had. It can take many years to achieve this point, and it is in fact limitless.
In essence, it’s not about the information you pick up in fragments, but how you apply it.
© Carmen Miro 2011
| PsychicAccess.com.Carmen’s waking dreams have provided accurate glimpses into the future for celebrities as well as political and international figures. Her non-judgmental, Empathic approach, as well as her unique method of Tarot reading, affords her the reputation as a groundbreaker in her field. This European born Canadian is the first online psychic to promote the idea of Empathy and emotional thought transference, and she has written a great deal on the subject. For a comprehensive Intuitive reading that will transform your life, you can find Carmen at |
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