So many times in my life I have suffered from a ‘broken Spirit’. Life tends to throw things at you when you least expect it. It is impossible to prepare for some of these ‘curve balls’, and for most, it leaves us stunned and confused. What to do and where to go from here?
For me personally, I went through a very challenging period in my life where I saw no options. It wasn’t that options didn’t exist; I just believed that I didn’t have any.
We become so engrossed by our suffering and personal loss that our logical minds, creativity and inner drive fly out the window. Sometimes the ability you thought you had has been put on the back burner out of exhaustion. The truth is we are never really ‘cornered’. Instead we are actually fighting for all we are worth to keep things as they were, or we refuse to admit failure.
Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant ~ Horace
Now there is a ‘dirty’ word. Failure. There is no such thing, my friend. We never ‘fail’; we just grow and learn. If something isn’t working for you, change gears, change direction, swallow your pride, reshuffle and keep going.
But every time I started believing that I was cornered, and that there were no options available to me, the Universe always sent in the ‘motivators’. They are the friends, associates, and at times people you have just met who can propel you forward. They are not motivators because they have all the answers, but because they see what you are truly capable of, and they encourage you to keep moving forward when you have pretty much given up.
If it wasn’t for the support system that I had, I doubt I would have risen above the disaster I had gotten myself into. There is a reality attached to that train of thought. For me, it was illusion, or denial. I was under the gun, and still believed I would be able to make it through the storm without any assistance. I was wrong. I held onto a ‘sinking ship’. Unfortunately, just like a good captain, I also went down with it.
I believed in “The Secret” – the Law of Attraction, manifesting, positive affirmations. But why wasn’t it working? Simply because, although I believed in it, I didn’t practice it. I let my mind take over, my spirit was broken and every idea or thought I came from ego. Our ego can build us or break us, that is a fact. That is the part where you go down with the ship.
Diseases can be our spiritual flat tires – disruptions in our lives that seem to be disasters at the time but end by redirecting our lives in a meaningful way ~ Bernie S. Siegel
When I let go of the negativity attached to my situation a new burst of ideas and energy came forward, disguised as off-handed comments by my friends and associates. My own stubbornness had taken over for so long that it was extremely difficult to accept anything anyone had said. How could they possible understand the magnitude of the loss I was about to face?
If any of you have been under financial pressure, deadlines, collection calls, threats, registered letters, or just generally being hounded every moment of every day, you know how wrapped up you get in just dealing with that…never mind looking for a way out!
I was exhausted, frightened and totally overwhelmed. That is when, at the bottom of that dark well, I saw a light shining down on me in the form of caring people, friends and family. Some of us are not blessed with having that much support. To be honest the people that helped me the most were the ones I barely knew, but had already walked a mile in my shoes.
I am the first to state that if you haven’t walked a mile in someone else’s shoes, you have no point of reference. There is a lot of truth in this. Most people just tell you to “shake it off”, or give you the lecture of “how could you let this get so out of hand?”
Adversity is like a strong wind. It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are ~ Arthur Golden
I was injured and ill at this time in my life. I had two salons up and running, and a third being opened in Vancouver, shortly before I was in a car accident. When your health is affected and you’re not working on all cylinders, it’s easy for things to spiral out of control. I was in a lot of pain and all drugged up. I couldn’t put a coherent thought together at the time, even if paid me.
I had no intention of letting go of the successful businesses I had built, but as the saying goes “when the cat is away the mice will play”. And play they did! No one can run a business from a hospital bed, not without a lot of help. Wisely, I closed the salons, but not before fighting tooth and nail to keep them open.
Wisdom comes in many forms: the ‘epiphany’ in the middle of the night, as well as the help and support, and the advice that was sent to me by someone I barely knew. It was these blessed gifts from strangers that pulled me out of the fire. In hindsight it wasn’t a bad thing to let go of the shops. After all, they were just material ‘things’, and at that time being able to walk without pain was far more important than holding onto my ego possessions.
It took eight long years before I was physically and mentally capable to deal with any new venture. I had a lot of unconventional therapy, experimental drugs and, most importantly, a support system of two specific people who not only understood what I was facing, but faced it with me. I could call on these people any hour, day or night. Their wisdom and compassion is what I needed so badly, and it was provided.
I don’t like people who have never fallen or stumbled. Their virtue is lifeless and it isn’t of much value. Life hasn’t revealed its beauty to them ~ Boris Pasternak
I have a dear friend who is now going through exactly what I went through then, so I understand her pain. I talk to so many clients who ask, “Why me?” They want to know where they went wrong or what they could have done differently. The answer is that the Universe, or God, or Source, is not picking on you. You didn’t do anything wrong, and there was nothing that could have been done differently.
We sometimes get injured or ill, and things just start falling apart. Why? Well, because we are the ones that kept it together all this time. During the first phase, all you do is beat yourself up for what you can’t do anymore. We forget to give ourselves credit for all we did do in the past. I felt loss and defeat, but in reality what I had gained is a stronger belief in that higher power taking care of me. Even though things didn’t go exactly how I had hoped, I was alive, and my health was returning.
It was a long road my friends, a very long one. I look back now and am grateful for the things I experienced; without that particular knowledge I would not be able to assist people in the same situation. I now have a point of reference to help others.
Somewhere inside of me I knew I would be taking a whole new life path, which I did. It brought me to where I am today. It was time for me to acknowledge other gifts that I had pushed away for so many years. I love working with people; I love them for where they are, not where they think they should be. I truly do like removing the ‘baseball bat’ they have been beating themselves over the head with, and replacing it with waves of love and healing light.
There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity ~ Washington Irving
To assist in the regeneration of someone’s being is a blessing. I acknowledge that I am no more than a vessel that Source works through. I take my calling seriously and no longer beat myself up for losing material ‘things’. Possessions can be replaced, but your life, your soul, and your purpose is irreplaceable.
Society puts so much emphasis on wealth and status; those with the most ‘toys’ in the end wins. We forget that those things are not what life is about. It is more about the lives we touch, the good we can do, and how we can be of service to those that need us and our experiences. It is about whether we can relate to their plight and not “talk out of our hats”. We can help them because have been there ourselves and have felt what they are feeling.
There really is no greater gift than the gift of oneself, as you walk through that very familiar fire with someone in need. Believe that all things do happen for a reason. At the time we may not be aware of them, but from personal experience I know now that it all happened to lead me here to where I am now in my life, and I am happy and in peace.
| PsychicAccess.com.Isthemus is an experienced psychic advisor with her own Metaphysical Company based out of the Fraser Valley of British Columbia. A natural born empath, clairsentient, clairvoyant, intuitive Counsellor and psychic advisor. Patty still does Paranormal Investigations as well as teaching workshops on how to interpret signs. You can talk to Isthemus at |
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