It Is Never Wise To Shoot The Messenger

Time is precious. Time is something we should value more. I sometimes wish there was a ‘time bank’ where all the lost time of my life is safely stored for later use. Imagine that: a time savings account. Sadly, there is no way to get lost time back.

In my line of work as a spiritual advisor, I deal with many cases of regret and ‘lost time.’ Some of these clients tend to use phrases of self-accusation to make sense of their failures and regrets: would have, should have, could have.

Your life should never be a game of waiting for an opportunity given to you by others. Your life is an adventure, and it is your choice how much you will succeed with it. Some people are not more successful than others because they are lucky or more deserving. Success is defined by the individual. It is a choice.

In the four decades I have doing psychic readings, I have come across many success stories. I remember, for example, the lady who was happily married to a building contractor until the birth of their son, when the husband suddenly passed away. She raised her child as a single mother, and later also took care of her grandchildren. Her life was good, except for the absence of a loving life partner.

Every time I read for her over the years, there was always a man who showed up in the cards. It was a man she already knew, who travels a lot, is very knowledgeable about culture, and lives near her. I encouraged her to be patient, the love of her life would show up when the time was right.But she hated to be alone and refused to wait. She was determined to figure out who this mysterious man was.

The wise try to adjust themselves to the truth, while fools try to adjust the truth to themselves ~ Thibaut

In time, she fell in love with a guy she had known for some time. He matched all the signs in the cards, except for one small problem: the wealth and money that he so openly flaunted everywhere he went, was never his own. My client had been alone for so long, that she ignored all the warning signs about this many, to the extent that she even lent him a small fortune of her own money.

I cautioned her not to, but she did not want to listen. She was convinced that he was the loving man the future held for her. Ignoring my psychic guidance in the end cost her a lot of money. He told her he needed the money to pay his overdue taxes, but also to take her on a romantic vacation. Well, he did spend it on a vacation, but not with her. He spent it with another woman!

When she next called me, she was obviously very upset. She said she no longer believed in love. She also claimed that I should have warned her, and that everything was my fault. She said she had trusted me and my predictions, which all came true, except those about the man she was going to meet. She wanted to know why. She had spent seven years chasing the devious man, and in the end he just ruined her financially.

I then had the unpleasant task of having to remind her that it was never my recommendation for her to wait for seven years for a man who cannot make up his mind. I had advised her that he would show up in her life of his own accord, when the time was right. The man she had been so focused on instead had never asked her to wait for him. In fact, he said, that he wanted to enjoy his life and that she would be a burden to him! But she thought that if she waited for him, he would eventually change.

Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

We eventually said our goodbyes. I was devastated for her. I even did another reading and went over the cards again, and again, hoping to gain some new insight, but still it was the same outcome. It no longer made sense, even to me, but there it was. Her true love was yet to come, and it was someone she knew.

Eight years later, she was back on the phone. This time she was ecstatic. She was laughing and crying at the same time. She had recently married her neighbor…who just so happened to have exactly the same name as the guy who scammed her! And this time the cards confirmed it. He was the man I had seen coming from the very beginning. Everything matched. His approximate age, hair color, profession, zodiac sign, and so on.

To this day she is still happily married. “I have learned to be patient, trust in spirit, and never play the what if game again,” she said. “And next time I will think twice before I shoot the messenger.”

Psychic advisors often have to deliver both good and bad news, whether we like it, or not. Either way, it also happens that if a client does not get the answer they had expected, they can get very upset. If this ever happens to you, please try not to ‘shoot the messenger.’

It is ironic that in ancient Greece, for example, Hermes, the messenger of the gods, was considered to be sacred. In many ancient civilizations messengers were believed to be safe by the graces of the deities. Even later in the Dark Ages, messengers were considered holy. But nowadays our manners and beliefs tend to sadly be less civilized towards the messengers. In fact, some folks are simply rude, to say the least.

When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear ~ Thomas Sowell

A messenger could be that police officer who stops you on the road, because your brake lights are not working. He is just doing his job, keeping you and others safe, by trying to prevent a potential accident. Or that stranger on the subway, who tells you that you have something odd stuck on your back, and offers to clean it for you, is also a messenger. She is preventing you from being embarrassed or humiliated.

Whether it is a good or bad day, you may want to thank your messengers. Show some gratitude and appreciation. Don’t yell at that cop for ‘infringing on your rights’ or swear at that well-meaning stranger on the subway for not minding her own business.

And next time you get a psychic reading, embrace the truth and wise guidance of the messages you receive.