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The Pretense Of Hyper-Sensitivity

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comOnce we realize we have been misunderstood in one of our casual remarks, we typically try to immediately turn it around,. We try to add a more agreeable flavor, in the hopes that the offended or confused person will take it as a well-intended supported compliment. It’s usually rather ridiculous, really, but nonetheless in these situations we continue to ‘make certain’ we are not seen in a controversial manner, or in a ‘bad light.’

When such an ambiguous occasion arises, we are perfectly aware of what we are doing and how we are doing it. But, does that make one bit of difference to us? No. If we were not nearly so phony and apologetic in our deference, we may even get a lucid glimpse of what we were really saying, along with the motivation behind our attempts to butter up the other.

What exactly is it that we are hoping to accomplish? Why is it important to remain on a level of satisfactory exchange with the other, in fear of upsetting them? Do not these innuendos ring a melody of falsity? Does not the planted, erect knife in the butter fall once the butter melts?

In other words, what is hidden in the relationships we feel so insecure about, and in need of continuing such a façade of nicety?

We work so hard to maintain the supposed idea of decency we have long since cherished, nurtured and polished in our own minds. We do nothing to upset the apple cart. And, when an unsuspecting, misunderstood statement is made, maybe even in jest, we immediately try to reabsorb the awkwardness left behind. We feel we must absolve ourselves in the light of the other, and will actually go out on a thin brittle limb of more flattery, in hopes it won’t snap to reveal our embarrassment.

Most people would rather be charged with malice than with making a blunder ~ Josh Billings

It’s an odd feeling of being put in our place, but no one did anything. Yet, we instinctively rise to the defense, as if we said or lacked some sort of expected grace. We instantly become the naive unmotivated culprits, with no explanation to offer to ourselves for feeling like we are in a ‘line-up’ at a police station. The other may or may not be aware of our discomfort, but we certainly are.

We want it cleared up, so that we may not be caught with our fragile egos exposed.

How dare the other show us how much we really don’t care. Of course we care! We take such pains to make certain everyone knows how involved and invested we are in our relationships. But, then, involuntarily, out pops the ambivalent slip-up! And we are caught…smack-dab in the middle of our own defamed humanity.

What do we do? Heaven forbid, if we were to be conscious enough to observe ourselves in the act, instead of mindlessly trying to cover up our innocent blunder.

It’s in that precise second, if we could examine our nameless state, that we could see a marvelous unconscious work of wonder revealed. But, instead, we prefer to remain in the familiar, comfortable lie of being kind, caring, just, sincere, interested and deeply involved.

We simply can’t tolerate the idea that there may be an aspect of ourselves we are not allowing to surface, for fear of it being out of sync with our readily accepted selves. What could we possibly do with that irascible part of us that exists without our guarding approval and monitoring?

It is very easy to forgive others their mistakes. It takes more gut and gumption to forgive them for having witnessed your own ~ Jessamyn West

Underneath the speculated surprising remark of unarguable flair, we posit ourselves in a carriage of six white drawn horses. It’s not even good enough to be ‘good enough,’ we want to be better than what we and the other thought of us.

Oh, how superficial and thin skinned we really are, but we devise all sorts of clever designs to keep us intact on the ‘cherry road of dainty, up-to-standard goodness.’ If it wasn’t so pathetic, it would be vehemently nauseating. We have not an inkling of a clue that the acts of premeditated kindness we implore do nothing to elicit true authenticity, but invoke unstated anxiety.

A securing of undelivered promises is behind all of our ratifying remarks. In other words, we are making sure our ‘ducks stay in a row’ and walk in line down to the closest pond.

And, we believe that if we ever needed a favor, by keeping the other pacified, they would be more than eager to supply the void. Wrong, again. By reinforcing to ourselves that we are going to need, want or have an occasion to call upon another, brings with it a turbulently, disturbing fear. No one can ever provide for us a falsely identifiable, projected security on any level.

It’s the same droning inexplicable fear that feeds all of our insecurities, complexes and numbed indifference. Based upon an impossible vexation of spirit and unsettled mind, we acquire a base of unfounded and ungrounded disparaging fears, which do not support reality in the least.

About The Author: Paula

Paula's innate metaphysical abilities, artistic talents, and entrepreneurial acumen have mixed wonderfully together to create a social media sensation, one who enjoys great popularity on LinkedIn, Instragram, Facebook, and YouTube. She dispenses not only accurate and intuitive divine wisdom but has artistic offerings that include vibrational soul paintings displayed on the internet, and she is a gifted singer and music producer as well. Her calling as a cosmic therapist led her to be the founder of MODE (Masters of Divine Essence) Cosmic Therapy Research Center, where she's published numerous books, songs and plays, and has held many workshops and seminars throughout the Southeast. She even produced her own program, The Mode of Cosmic Therapy Interactive Television Show that aired on WRTN, in Raleigh, NC, for ten years. Paula is also an avid astrologer who interprets the stars and predicts your chart energies at work. If you'd like a detailed glimpse at your own cosmic blueprint, or you have burning questions that require clear answers, Paula will employ all the tools and talents at her disposal for a reading that will dazzle and transform your life. You can find Paula at

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