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The Secret To Being Sexually Attractive

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comHuman beings are driven by a sanctified sexual instinct. We thrive on pleasure, and work hard to avoid pain. But, being  open enough to allow the sublimely sacred, sexually-originated, artistically-inherent flowing energy to merge without resistance is another story altogether.

Our DNA implanted thrill devices, instilled in us before birth, activate as soon as we are born. We arrive needing to connect, receive warmth and to belong; to be held and caressed. Soft, tender words sooth us; caring for our needs are hopefully immediate and remain paramount all the days of our lives.

As complicated and complex as it may seem, in order to satisfy our deeply infused, divine artistic creative yearnings, we generate experiences that are needful, vitally life-sustaining. Some are quite painful, to be sure, but none are unwarranted and unnecessary.

And, though we may spend a lifetime, trying to unravel layers, upon layers, upon layers of meaning hidden in intimacy – which disguise so cleverly our basic internal needs – the impelling desire to connect remains. This connection is projected and received as attractiveness. We all are generated by the impetus to attract.

How sexually attractive are we? On a scale from 1 to 10, what digit would our libido’s barometer read? That magic number is decided by how naturally free and conveniently unencumbered we are. I am not talking about whether we are married, single, or both. I’m referring to our flexibly receptive state of mind. Barriers which obscure and oppress this natural and convenient energy come from the junk we accumulate and refuse to dispose.

Sexual pleasure is a legitimate right of the human being ~ Samael Aun Weor

We need to ask: just how much junk is in that trunk? Here is a concept to ponder: whatever current ‘resistant’ state of mind we possess always reflects the amount of muscular tension and stiffness in the body, which inadvertently shouts: unappealing and unavailable!

Bitterness, resentment, regret, jealousy, competitiveness, greed and sarcasm first register in the limbs of the body, before it spews out of the mouth. But worse yet, the flashing red-lighted sign of repetitive negative energy spilling out of every cell warns others (most especially potential mates) of the foreboding, unapproachable and downright toxic zone we embody. Unfortunately, it makes its appearance before we do.

Gossip, envy and greed dull the luster of the eyes, while regret, hidden agendas, and latent anger deform the smile. Gluttony destroys the shine in hair, ingratitude ruins the subtleness and softness of skin, and arrogance kills joy. Did I neglect to mention what the act of complaining does? Figure it out.

In plain truth, we destroy our own level of inviting attractiveness. We become sharp-edged. Spiky. Ouch! Hard to lay down with a body of thumbtacks, right? Honestly, how much fun are we to be around? Could we stand to be with ourselves long enough to engage in an act of true sexual passion? Or even a quickie? Or would we have to tape our mouths shut? If you were on the prowl, would you have any genuine sexual interest in someone like you? Would you be worth your time and effort?

Undoubtedly, sexuality holds the number one position as the highest form of spiritual energy available to mankind on the planet today. It certainly provides the controversial soil in which to grow all sorts of human dilemmas.

The behavior of a human being in sexual matters is often a prototype for the whole of his other modes of reaction in life ~ Sigmund Freud

One misconception from that ‘field of plenty’ is the idea that the way a person looks on the outside stimulates, creates, maintains, and fulfills the sexual appetite. Not true. Sexual eroticism goes much deeper than the measurement of your hips or chest. Spontaneity, flexibility, humor and receptivity add true delight, and reflect genuine desirability. If these sexually vibrating and stimulating attributes are not present, we are a ‘dud’… no matter what we look like physically.

Here’s a golden nugget. Don’t be so vain. Vanity is a time-consuming monster that robs your true passion! In truth, vanity does nothing more than age a person.

Of course, aging isn’t the only problem to contend with. Gotta be more to the ‘tingle’ than the ‘wingle.’ The key ingredients needed is a voluptuous sense of humor, a voracious appetite for life, at least a mildly functioning brain, and an energetic creative spirit to help support a healthy, viable sexual attitude which, in turn, fosters a positive, sizzling, active sex life.

Bottom line: life is ridiculously funny. First of all, we cannot have a hidden agenda without it interfering with our performance. Sure, we can get lucky sometimes with our overall ‘hit and misses,’ but for a richly fulfilling sex life, we must be present and ready to give and receive. You may be saying that you’ll be present and ready. Not necessarily.

If you’re carrying a whole bunch of mental garbage, whether it be ‘leftover emotions’ from other relationships, or currently unresolved emotional issues; worries and concerns of the day; comparison issues, or body image problems or exaggerations; guilt because you think you are doing something ‘wrong, dirty or immoral; or thoughts of financial burdens… or countless other matters that do not belong in the bed with you, then you are not going to meet the divine encounter of sexual bliss. Utopia’s ecstasy will elude you.

What freedom men and women could have, were they not constantly tricked and trapped and enslaved and tortured by their sexuality ~  John Steinbeck

It takes far more to experience an authentic sexual union than for two bodies to collide. You must come to terms with how you really feel about sex, and about yourself. Do you unquestionably, truly, unequivocally enjoy sex? Can you envision, taste, smell, touch, feel, absorb, and converge into another to such an extent that the boundaries of the two bodies dissolve? Can you receive ultimate pleasure, without flinching or crowing? Can you reciprocate without a need or desire to measure?

Does your body writhe in humorous waves of grandeur, celebrating the eclectically bounded jolts of cosmic sensually induced electricity? Do you engage the act of love’s finest expression, without a hint of remorse, regret, restraint, or reprise? And, further still do you anticipate when the next encounter will be before this occasion has passed?

Do you say thank you for the rapturous encounter, whether you’ve engaged in it a hundred thousand times, or for the first time? Do you acknowledge the sacred presence of an indescribable force of divinity’s sensual energy, so profound words fail to articulate it?

Are you more grateful to be alive for having been involved in the holy act of sex? Do you desire to share you immense delight in everything you do? Are you more creative, giving, loving, interested, involved and infectiously enthusiastic? Do you release the other after the sex act with no thought of bondage or indebtedness?

Do you continuously smile in reverence for the invisible force who elicits from you the ecstatic joy you experience? Can you genuinely say that you enjoy the sex act in the same way you would consume a delicious meal, soul-satisfying music, gratifyingly inspired art, spiritually uplifting drama, enticingly, mind-challenging reading, the heart rendering pleasurous sensation of meaningful conversation, and the gut-busting belly laughs that occur quite unexpectedly?

We need to allow ourselves the freedom to figure out what we internally want from sex instead of mimicking whatever popular culture holds up to us as sexy. That would be liberation ~  Ariel Levy

If you can, you are beginning to comprehend just how really sexually attractive you are. Attraction begins and ends with being vitally alive, present, interested, interesting, funny and entertaining. Gorgeous people bring with them an ineffable, intangible, sparkling enthusiastic element that stays on fire.

And, all those who come in contact with ‘sexy’ feel it. People automatically gravitate toward this indistinguishable energy. Heartthrobs carry an effervescing glow that floods the room. Sexually attractive people are enveloped with overwhelming founts of bubbling natural enthusiasm. They are easy, comfortable and inviting to be around. They normally don’t criticize, belittle or condemn.

It’s their natural, ‘anything goes’ and convenient ‘let’s do it, now’ attitude that makes them so damned beautiful all the time. They don’t focus on ‘what’s in it for me,’ for they know instinctively they are carrying their own contentment and bliss. Their paradisiacal nature draws like a magnet. They live to be. Sex is being! Not struggle, strife, arguments, or distension. No bribery, conditions, or unrealistic expectations.

The sex act unites then, releases. Sexually attractive people know you cannot own anyone or anything. It’s impossible. When you are free and uninhibited you are a sexual magnet! And when you are encumbered, possessive or jealous, you are a bore. And, guess what? Sex with you is boring.

Whatever weighs heavy on your mind, when you lay down to engage in sex, it will impedes your pleasure. Get out of your own way for the receiving of ultimate, stupendous pleasure. With regards to your current sexual experiences, cease all agitated mind activity today. Stop causing yourself so many undue sex-related problems.

In adopting a patently false but stubbornly clung-to mythology of human sexuality that makes demons out of natural drives, we’ve entered a stage of moral sickness, not of moral health ~ Jesse Bering

Lighten up! Laugh for no reason. Be like a feather on the wind. Go and do where and how it blows. Let up on the incessant worrying, striving and contending. Whatever has been, has been Let it be. As John Lennon so aptly stated, be where your feet are today. No plans. No procedures. No rituals of expectation. Do what comes natural and convenient for you. Nothing else. No matter what shows up. Don’t hesitate to say no if it’s not suitable.

Anything else is false and adds to your unattractiveness. Be genuine. Be liberated and imaginative. Allow the sexual experiences you have experienced to flow through you, like sensual water finding its natural shape and expression. No judgment. No exception.

Water is the magnet of life. It takes on the shape of the container in which it is held. Merging is the key. Draw to you what you will. Be seductively fluid in all your movements and actions. It feels sensationally, orgasmically marvelous! It’s a real turn-on. Water, from which we all emerged in our mother’s womb, is continually drawn back to the source and so are we. Let it be what it will be for the short season we are here.

About The Author: Paula

Paula's innate metaphysical abilities, artistic talents, and entrepreneurial acumen have mixed wonderfully together to create a social media sensation, one who enjoys great popularity on LinkedIn, Instragram, Facebook, and YouTube. She dispenses not only accurate and intuitive divine wisdom but has artistic offerings that include vibrational soul paintings displayed on the internet, and she is a gifted singer and music producer as well. Her calling as a cosmic therapist led her to be the founder of MODE (Masters of Divine Essence) Cosmic Therapy Research Center, where she's published numerous books, songs and plays, and has held many workshops and seminars throughout the Southeast. She even produced her own program, The Mode of Cosmic Therapy Interactive Television Show that aired on WRTN, in Raleigh, NC, for ten years. Paula is also an avid astrologer who interprets the stars and predicts your chart energies at work. If you'd like a detailed glimpse at your own cosmic blueprint, or you have burning questions that require clear answers, Paula will employ all the tools and talents at her disposal for a reading that will dazzle and transform your life. You can find Paula at

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