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Dirty Little Secrets

click here for a free reading at PsychicAccess.comSo many of us have secrets. Some sneak food, others drink alcohol, or they have a sugar habit, can’t have an orgasm, or they are depressed. More interestingly, in my experience, some people in the helping, motivation, exercise, or spiritual industry often have more secrets than most. They keep these secrets, because they have more to lose. If they are supposed to be selling a service or product that ‘works’… appearances matter (perhaps even more than the practice they sell).

Furthermore, people love to worship their idols and gurus… who are sometimes frail and imperfect humans themselves. We create heroes who in turn create themselves. Some of these ‘heroes’ come close to revealing themselves, most are only revealed after their death. In truth, we have no idea what other people are really going through in their lives. Nor do we typically want to know. Instead we prefer to worship some ideal. This helps us to further self-criticize, because we are not that ideal like them. And this in turn encourages everyone to keep more secrets.

Secrets are not just about lying. Or making a profit. It is more about fear, and a lack of faith. We tend to believe that some parts of our self are ‘wrong,’ or need to be corrected. Which implies we know better than Great Spirit who we are meant to be and how to make corrections from the original plan, in order to live the life we know we are meant to have. After all, our own version of the plan is better, no? Which leaves the Creator with the job of finding us a parking space when we require one.

We dance round in a ring and suppose, but the secret sits in the middle and knows ~ Robert Frost

The fear? That if we truly reveal who we are, either to our self or others close to us, we will not be loved and probably will in fact be rejected. Again, as if our very being is a mistake.

Often we punish those who have secrets like ours, or know our secrets, since they can potentially expose our own embarrassments. Attack is the best form of defense. And the poor recipient who is punished, simply for existing in your world,  has no idea what happened, or what they did ‘wrong.’

Imagine how compassionate we could be if we didn’t flinch every time someone did something that reminded us of our own ‘terrible secrets.’ Imagine we could become so comfortable about our very being-ness, that we no longer have to spend much of our daily energy protecting our public or social ‘image.’ Imagine how much our intuition could soar if our energy field was taken down from the red alert job of keeping our silly secrets… secret.

When we are comfortable with the totality of our Self, all of it, we can fall in love with the Self. If we are in love with the Self, it is natural for others to also love us. So then, instead of bad and wrong, good or not good, and instead of secrets, it all becomes diverse flavors, like Baskin-Robbins ice cream. Liking others become simply a choice. Choice, not judgment.

Therapy can help, but it is still just one person sharing their ‘dirty secret’ with another – a professional who has been trained to not disclose, except in a controlled fashion in order to move the therapy forward.

Stripped of all their masquerades, the fears of men are quite identical: the fear of loneliness, rejection, inferiority, unmanageable anger, illness and death ~ Joshua L. Liebman

Activating meditation, heart centered meditation, can build up our strength to be able to face and embrace all of whom we are.  Meditation is a personal journey, with others. You are alone, with others also alone, all invested in discovering Self and becoming One with Self. It is a safe space to stop pretending, to emerge, to embrace your truth and begin to live an authentic life. Safe, but it will still be a bit scary and challenging at times, as is typical when one chooses to move forward in life.

When we cannot feel our own Self, it is difficult to feel Spirit. Meditation, particularly with a good teacher, provides energetic support to connect you with Spirit and will strengthen your intuition, and your relationship with your Guides, which in turn will build faith.

Every day we have a choice, to hide or come out. To distract or to feel. To stay busy or make time to unite with the Great Silence that allows one to emerge. And with each choice we make, our daily life will reflect our commitment and our priorities.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

One Response to Dirty Little Secrets

  • Interesting read! We all have secrets and they preoccupy us. The more we try to keep them at bay, the more they rise up in our minds. The more we try to fight back, the more likely we are to slip up.

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