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The Permission To Grieve

click here for a free reading at PsychicAccess.comIf you’ve recently experienced a deep loss, my soul reaches out to yours today. I extend my condolences and healing energy in your time of grief. I don’t just say it because it sounds like a nice thing to say as a medium. I say it because I truly mean it.

This October I suffered one of the worst losses of my life. My mother passed, rather unexpectedly. She was only 60 years old.  I knew my mom hadn’t been feeling well for a few weeks, but she tried to assure me she only had “the flu.”

My mom knew I was a psychic medium, and that it was hard to get anything past me. She wasn’t exactly lying. She had no formal diagnosis to tell her what was causing her illness, but I am fairly certain that she knew it was something much more sinister than a simple bout of the flu.

Sometimes our intuitive gifts can also feel like a curse, because my gut knew exactly what was wrong, but I didn’t want to even say the word out loud. I just told her she needed to go to the doctor. She agreed, changed the subject and left it at that. This discussion happened three weeks before her passing.

A week before my mother departed this life, I stopped in for a quick visit and to deliver her some food. She told me two of the other ladies in the apartment complex had gone to the hospital over the weekend with the flu; that it was a bad one. She said she was sure she also had it, but was feeling a little better that day. I looked at her and very matter of factly told her that I loved her, but she didn’t look good. She appeared to have lost quite a bit of weight since I had seen her two weeks prior and I was very concerned.

You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love ~ Doug Manning

It was a Monday and she told me she was scheduled for a doctor’s appointment on the Friday. This did little to alleviate the emotions that began crashing over me. I was running late for my class, so I hugged her. We exchanged greetings of love and I left. I cried on my way to class. No matter how much I tried to convince myself otherwise, I knew what was coming.

The following Monday, I found myself having to make the most difficult decision of my life… to remove my mother from a ventilator. My mother went from being admitted to the hospital on Friday, for what was thought to be pneumonia, to finding out she was full of cancer and her body was shutting down. The experience was surreal and took place over a mere two-and-a-half days. And then it was over.

Although I have siblings, I felt very alone. As the oldest and most responsible, all the decisions and arrangements fell to me. As a professional medium I help people with their grief from the loss of a loved one almost daily. Despite this my loss was overwhelming.

I was grateful that my last conversation with my mother included the words, “I love you” – from both of us, and that I knew it to be fact. I was grateful that there were no real regrets in our relationship. And I was grateful that although her passing came much sooner than I anticipated, she also avoided a lengthy battle with a horrible disease. I was grateful for my faith, for my mother’s faith and for our shared belief in the eternal soul.

Yet, even with all of this positive perspective, the realization that at 44 I now had no living grandparents or parents, was difficult to process.

Yes, you did the math correctly, my mother was only 16 years older than me. She was a young mom, and at times she and I were more like siblings than mother and daughter, but I digress.

Grieving is not weakness nor absence of faith. Grieving is as natural as crying when you are hurt, sleeping when you are tired or sneezing when your nose itches. It is nature’s way of healing a broken heart ~ Doug Manning

The fact that I sensed what was wrong with my mother, a few weeks before her passing, yet I couldn’t do anything to fix it for her, bothered me. I also found myself struggling with the same grief I help others work through, and I became angry. For some reason, I felt I should be able to ‘be okay’ with all of it much sooner. Shouldn’t the mechanic be able to quickly and easily fix their own car?

As a professional psychic medium, I am surrounded by colleagues in the same field who offered their support. All of my friends and family also offered their condolences. And while I deeply appreciated all of this, I still felt empty.

My daughter ultimately offered me the words that started my healing. She said, “Mom, you always take care of everyone. It’s okay to not be okay right now.”  Simple, yet powerful. It wasn’t about fixing what was wrong, it was about giving me the permission that I needed to be vulnerable for a while. It was in that space of ‘weakness’ that I was ultimately able to take the time I needed as a daughter to grieve my mother.  If you have found yourself in a similar space, you know what I’m talking about.

I think my daughter’s advice goes far beyond dealing with the death of my mother. I think we can all use those wise words from time to time. I’d like to give you permission to follow it when necessary. Whether it is because of the passing of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or simply the end of a really hard week. Take the time you need to heal. No matter how strong you are, sometimes it’s okay to not be okay.

About The Author: Angie

Angie is an accomplished Medium, Intuitive and Empath, speaking with Angels, Spirit Guides and those who've crossed over. She's situated in the New England area, and has been providing highly accurate readings for her clients for over twenty-five years, and is sought after for psychic parties and dinners. What makes her particularly fascinating is her unique talent with Art Mediumship, in which she combines drawings and messages. She's trained with many mentors locally and internationally, and has connected with exactly the right teachers at just the right time. Angie is also a teacher, offering Spiritual Gift and Mediumship Development classes, and she is Certified in Akashic Records and Pranic Healing. If you'd like to be introduced to your best spiritual self, while receiving detailed answers from a gifted and compassionate Card Reader and Medium, you can find Angie at

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