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The Rush Of ‘Meant to Be’

click here now for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comMeant to be? I don’t think so. Whether you have decided you just met your twin flame, soulmate, or your heart’s guru, if you are in a hormonal adrenalin rush you are reacting to a chemical high – and that high can mean many things. Actually, the love you feel for a true soulmate or ‘meant to be’ will never be a tornado, neither will it rock your world. Instead, it will roll in like a sunrise, many sunrises.

The energy of a true soulmate connection can be strong, but it will also definitely be soft, gradual, filled with nuances that you could not even have imagined, and therefore could not have ‘manifested.’ It is a love that is revealed to you. Not an energy that traps you in a whirlwind high.

People who rush into energy traps, will then justify the often (and usually) dramatic ending to these kind of relationships with some New Age jargon, without examining their own dysfunction, lessons learned, the hidden greed inside of them that caused the addictive response to the rush they called their “meant to be.”

A rush of biochemical reactions means you just fell in love with yourself, your fantasy, and your longings. Why? Because you are in a body, on Earth, three dimensional and living out this life. And things take time here on Earth. Instant ‘love energy,’ whether it is or a friend, teacher, or lover, means you just fell in love with your imagination of who this person is. You just fell in love with the idea that some empty hole in you is about to be filled. Usually this idea is living in your subconscious. When you say you “fell in love”… fell is the appropriate word. True love grows, with time and with experiences.

He stirred my soul in the most subtle way and the story between us wrote itself ~ Nikki Rowe

As a human, meeting another human, only time reveals how this person is living their life path. Every person comes into this life with potential. Not everyone fulfills their potential in each and every lifetime. Even if you do, you cannot live up to, or in your potential all the time. Every person has ‘flaws’ as well as ‘gifts,’ and is learning, as well as being amazing. And all human relationships are complex. Only time reveals the true person. Only time grows love as opposed to falling into love then climbing out of that hole and either re-balancing the relationship, or leaving it.

I can tell you that every single student that immediately decided I was ‘it’ in terms of being a teacher for them (at least for a while) left within a year and left angry. I didn’t change in that year and never was there an apparent reason for each student’s extreme disappointment. The disappointment was that I did not live up to their fantasy of who they ‘fell in love with,’ in their imagination and their expectations. You cannot be disappointed if you do not have expectations. People who become disappointed in someone else that they say they love (or loved) all fell in love with their expectations, not the person.

Those falling in love with a spiritual teacher expect to be ‘recognized’ for their ‘amazing gifts,’ while others want to become a ‘special student.’ And some want to be launched into their (imagined) spiritual career.

In my decades of teaching, only a very few students who started off hard and fast, falling in love, lasted through the transition from fantasy to reality. Most of the overly and instantly enthusiastic students left, believing they were angry with me, when in fact they were angry that their dreams and expectations did not come true. Only the ones that stayed or came back were able to look inside and discover their fantasies, their longings, and their magical thinking that I was ‘the one’ that was somehow going to save them from their own lives.

And these over the top instant students were furious to discover ‘faults’ or flaws in their teacher, because their fantasy expectations did not include this. Some were thrilled to discover faults, because that was part of their fantasy, that they would be shown they were better than their teacher and therefore are indeed… amazing.

This description can be applied to instant love, or imaginary ‘soul friendships.’ Having an emotional or energetic rush is not a bad thing. However making life decisions from that rush is not a good idea. For humans, emotions are not only a source of pleasure (one of the main reasons we incarnate) they are always a source of learning. Feeling a rush is wonderful but you don’t live the majority of life your life from a rush (unless you are a meth addict or alcoholic or adrenaline junkie).

He made me feel unhinged . . . like he could take me apart and put me back together again and again ~ Chelsie Shakespeare

Strong emotional or energetic connections always mean a lesson is coming. Why? Because most humans run away from their lessons, so Spirit has to sugar-coat the lessons so we will participate. If it looks like love, or enlightenment, or a career, or a gift, or money, then you will run right into it. If it looks like learning boundaries, self-care, independence, inter-dependence, and so on, most people run in the opposite direction!

Enjoy the rush, but don’t make any big decisions, until the energy levels out. That way you will still learn your lessons, but you will be able to be more centered, mindful, and therefore connected to Spirit Guidance. The guidance is always there for you. When you are overwhelmed by energies or emotions you go out of body and lose your connection to Spirit Guidance. It is fun, for sure, so have fun. But like sky diving, small adjustments mean big consequences.

Will you do this perfectly? Of course not, so when you mess up be sure to keep the focus on what you learned and do not put all your anger and disappointment on the other person, the one that was sent by Spirit to hook you in, so you would participate in your lesson. Leave their lesson alone, stay in your lane and work on what Spirit sent you via your sugar-coated lesson.

Yes, get mad, vent, say all the mean things you need to say as that is all part of your learning. But ultimately own it. You went for the rush, and Spirit knew how much resistance you had and knew exactly how to set up this lesson for you by appealing to your desires, your unconscious expectations, your secret greediness (to be amazing, or recognized), your neediness (to be loved or accepted) in order to hook you up so you would participate in the lesson.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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