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Liberating Your Shadow

click here to get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWhen I first began to really walk the spiritual path, I remember doing so because it just felt so right. Every step I took towards ‘enlightenment’ seemed to bring more brightness into my life, and more blessings. I was really rolling! I was expecting this to always be the ride – all joy and light and love. It was wonderful.

What I hadn’t expected was the inevitable emergence of my shadow through this work. And it was not something I was comfortable with: admitting I had places of darkness within me, unloved aspects of myself, unowned pieces of my soul which had been abandoned and were in such pain.

Through a series of what seemed like unfortunate events, I was given opportunities to face my shadow side. Challenges in relationships with friends and loved ones arose. I couldn’t understand it at first and felt very alone and misunderstood. I was shifting the blame for this onto the people around me, instead of going inward.

I embrace my shadow self. Shadows give depth and dimension to my life. I believe in embracing my duality, in learning to let darkness and light, peacefully co-exist, as illumination ~ Jaeda DeWalt

Going inward into the light was totally okay, but going inward into the darkness was terrifying. My ego-self threw up every defense to keep me from going there. Eventually, I could avoid it no longer. My life underwent tremendous change in the course of only a few years. So much so, that the entire landscape of my existence and the people in it were different.

While many of the changes were positive, the magnitude of the differences between my ‘old life’ and my ‘new life’ forced me into a different kind of self reflection. Where did I want to go with my life? What did I want to do? And who was I going to be? I must admit, these were heavy questions and I felt the weight of them. In addition, I was healing from a loss, and that was taking more time than I wanted it to.

My ‘aha moment’ came when I was lamenting one day about my relationship with my partner. I had identified that I wanted a deeper level of connection, but felt that he was unwilling to meet me there. Now, I believe that people are mirrors for us. This is a complex subject that could be a whole other article, as they are not always a mirror of what we are. But in this case, when I acknowledged that mirror I had to admit that I was the one with the connection issues.

Whether or not my partner had an issue with connection didn’t matter anymore. I had an issue and I recognized it playing out through all my previous relationships. Suddenly, I understood why this shadow work had been nagging at me. If I ever wanted to manifest the kind of life I was working to create, I had to go deep.

So many of my limiting beliefs were stemming from roots that had been planted in my youth. Roots that became so intrinsic to my being, that I kind of forgot about them. Consciously, I didn’t even realize I had accepted these things as truth, or that I buried them as deeply as I could so I didn’t really have to look at those ugly truths.

I realized I had a deep sense of unworthiness of love. That I feared receiving any kind of genuine connection, because I was afraid of then losing it – or at what price it would come. In this construct, I set up my defenses so that I could be affectionate, show care and show my love, but I would only allow myself to accept love to a certain depth. I was essentially rejecting the very connection I was so desperate for!

With this shift in my perspective, I began to make more mindful choices around my interactions with people. Instead of always having to be ‘good’ when someone asked me how I was, I’d just be honest. Maybe I was ‘good,’ but maybe I was having a really hard day. Either way I would just be honest about it. Instead of always having to be strong when people needed me and then shutting them out when I needed them, I just started owning my reality and speaking it.

Your Shadow is a dark omen, a powerful teacher that reveals to you the places in your life where you are energetically blocked. When you continue to ignore these signs, you perpetuate the cycle of your suffering ~ Mateo Sol

Low and behold, I began to discover who in my life really cared about my well-being. Allowing my Spirit to rest in a state of receptivity, instead of projection, required me to become more vulnerable in my relationships. Part of this process involved discovering my own insecurities, defense mechanisms, limiting beliefs, and past traumas, which had an indelible impact on my sense of self.

Accepting these aspects of myself was not easy, and there is always more shadow work to be done. But I discovered something through this first brush with shadow work, and it was this: the shadow is present to be loved. The more of our shadow we can integrate, accept unconditionally and love, the more of ourselves we are able to actualize. This is because we come to know ourselves more fully, and we are not hiding these pieces of ourselves that we feel shame about. Instead we have truly taken them as part of ourselves. Not begrudgingly, not in spite of them, but because we want them!

I would not be who I am were it not for these aspects of myself – and I am spectacularly grateful that I get to be me. All of these aspects are part of my ‘I Am’… my soul.

So, now I say, it’s vital to make a friend of the darkness and the pain within you. Do not try to chase it away, or ignore it. Doing this will only prolong the suffering it causes you. Instead, sit with it. Visit with it. Understand it. And accept it as it is.

In this process of acceptance, true and honest acceptance, you are simply allowing your feelings to be within you, without resistance or trying to change them. Putting the light of your awareness upon them with love and gentleness, you integrate your experiences.

As you do this you will find that these aspects stop clamoring for your attention. When it rises up, you acknowledge the feeling, you sit with it, and you offer it love and comfort. As you do this, and integrate these parts of you, they will eventually stop coming up altogether.

You may find you access new awareness of other limiting beliefs you have, and will have the opportunity then to transmute those. It is an ever unfolding process of discovering the self.

While doing shadow work may seem painful, and scary, when you are called to do this work within yourself, I encourage you to remember that this is actually an exciting journey you are undertaking! The transformative power of shadow work is one that touches your life on many levels. It is the journey back to a self you forgot or denied, and the best word I can use to describe this feeling is: liberating.

About The Author: Seraphim

Seraphim's natural Clairvoyant, Clairaudient, and Empathic abilities to receive messages and connect with Spirit first came to the fore in early childhood. Upon discovering her mom's Tarot deck, not long after her death, Seraphim was led on a journey that helped her to explore her vast gifts. Seraphim continues to receive steady guidance and messages directly from her Spirit Guides and Angels, and has maintained a steady and successful private practice based in Edmonton. She remains very active in her spiritual community, and often is called upon to lead local events. Self-taught, she's mastered Tarot Reading and a powerful technique called "Eye-Gazing" that allows her to convey precise information to the client. She works with "The Sacred Art of Creation", leading empowered women's circles that facilitate self-healing, manifestation and alignment. If you'd like a reading with a compassionate reader who can both hear and convey direct messages from Spirit Guides and Angels, you can find Seraphim at

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