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When You Don’t Like Your Spiritual Teacher

Click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIf you are lucky enough to have a spiritual teacher, you will know that it is an unusual relationship. Nothing else is like it. Yes, the teacher is a human, but the relationship is spiritual, not human. Not when you are the chela*.

Some people love to say they ‘know’ their spiritual teacher, or are close to their teacher, as if that somehow is a badge to claim their progress towards enlightenment. Nothing could be further from the truth, and in fact you can bet that is a sure sign of an overbearing ego.

Surely, you have learned things from amazing people, yet you would not be want to be their friends? You might be eternally grateful for what you learned from them, yet still would not go to lunch with that person. And, if you chose to thank the person for what you learned, I suspect you would never tell the person, “You know, I don’t really even like you, but I did learn something.” Instead, you take the best from that person, and leave the rest.

The best relationship student-teacher is in knowing who is right for you and who you are right for ~ Donnie Burns

However, spiritual teachers can push your buttons so to speak, and many people find the need to act out on those buttons and inappropriately discuss their personal analysis with their teacher. Notice, I said discuss. That is being polite. Typically if you are delivering your brilliant analysis, unasked, to someone, anyone, it is offensive. Especially if you have never spent a moment asking questions of the person to learn more about them first, if they will even disclose more than what is deemed appropriate to a stranger.

A spiritual teacher, like the rest of us, is one person in public and another in private. Behind the scenes with any person, whether famous like Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Princess Diana, or any guru or teacher, be they mundane or magical, is a significantly different experience than what you encounter publicly.

If you do need to discuss some emotional problem that is getting in the way of your spiritual progress, that is a totally different discussion. That discussion is you looking at you, and your reactions to a mentor or teacher, in order to learn about yourself, not to analyze the other (which is none of your business).

If you choose to spend your time analyzing your teacher, or creating a human psychological profile, I would say perhaps you need to reconsider working with that teacher, and also consider if this is a red flag of self-avoidance.

When studying with a professor, you might find yourself making some snide comments, or even comments of admiration regarding the professor as a person, as opposed to an expert in a subject matter. In reality you know nothing of the real persona of your professor outside of the classroom. If you have the time to create a psychological profile of your professor, I would tell you that you are not devoting enough time to your studies, as you obviously have too much time on your hands.

Einstein, Van Gogh, Picasso, in fact any famous or public person, really any person, is not the person you imagine them to be in your imagination. And what one does publicly, especially in a career of passion, often has little to do with the intimate, day-to-day interactions with such people.

When you act like a teacher, it’s usually because you’re afraid to be the student ~ Byron Katie

Even having lunch with famous people or anyone in the public eye, you will find that person still ‘on.’ It is only natural as a way to protect oneself with strangers, associate, students, or anyone your are not truly close too. If you imagine yourself to be ‘very close’ to your teacher, professor, or mentor, often that indeed is not true in their eyes.

If you don’t like your teacher, look to yourself first and see what you learn. Then if you still ‘don’t like’ your teacher, and that is a criteria for you to learn and evolve, it is time to leave.

Spiritual teachers, in fact all teachers, are not here just to coddle. There is a balance between support and challenge, validation and questioning, feeling safe and being pushed out of your comfort zone. Your job is to decide if you ‘like’ your spiritual teacher enough to trust it all.

Your spiritual teacher loves your soul, and because of that will not tolerate your human nonsense, knowing that you are bigger and better than that. Your spiritual teacher sees what you are not, and what you can and will become, if you chose to purse your higher path.

If you have enough time to analyze your teacher, which is none of your business, I would say you have too much time on your hands and more meditation and self-contemplation is a good way, a higher way to use your time.

*A chela is a student or disciple, from the Sanskrit verb ‘to serve.’ In Hinduism, it is believed that there is a sacred bond between a chela, and their guru or teacher.

About The Author: Nonna

Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client's soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul's sparkle, contact Nonna at

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