Most of the psychic reading calls I receive at Psychic Access are typically about love and relationships. This might have been great, because we all love a good love story, right? But most often people are calling because they are hurting or have suffered a loss. Many call because they feel their loved one might be cheating on them, and sometimes this is true.
“It’s not you, it’s me.” How many times have you heard that? Mostly it is the truth. We often feel the other person is just saying it in some attempt to make us feel better, but the harsh reality is that it is really they who have the problem.
This isn’t about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned ~ David Levithan
People who cheat are cheating because they have a void in their lives; a void inside themselves. A hole. They do not love themselves, and until they do, they will never be able to truly connect with others.
In my experience the top five reasons why lovers cheat are:
1. They’ll have what she is having.
Remember that famous quote in the classic movie When Harry Met Sally? “I’ll have what she’s having!” Who could forget that! Cheaters want the same thing – the thing that looks wonderful to them, the thing that they do not have. They feel the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
2. They are addicted to love.
They love the “high” that falling in love brings. They crave the relationships and encounters made for romance novels, and once it wears off, they are gone. Well not gone physically, but they have already moved on to the next person, to the next high. And let’s face it, the excitement and the high does subside, but it is supposed to be replaced with a wonderful emotion, that is just as lovely, much deeper, and more lasting, but not as exciting. This emotion is the thing that long-term relationships are made of. The cheater never gets to that stage, because they have long moved on.
3. They crave the excitement.
Boredom. Let’s face it, the day to day routine of a relationship is not often romance novel material. Doing the chores and making supper is not the way the cheater envisions the world to be, but it is the real world. Love and life go hand-in-hand. This is another difficult life lesson for the cheater.
When people cheat in any arena, they diminish themselves—they threaten their own self-esteem and their relationships with others by undermining the trust they have in their ability to succeed and in their ability to be true ~ Cheryl Hughes
4. They need to be desired.
They have a need to feel loved and be desired. It is easy to feel this in the beginning of a relationship, but again, as it progresses, the flames may go a little lower.
5. They have low self-esteem.
I think this is the biggest one for anyone that cheats. They need to feel in control. They need to feel it and act it. They often feel that before someone hurts them, they will hurt them first. If they keep moving, it is less likely that they will get hurt or even feel anything deeply at all. The cheater needs to learn how to love themselves without the approval of others.
Where does that leave you? There is hope. However, the cheater has to realize that they are hurting others, and also themselves, before the destructive behavior can end. If you have issues with cheating, get some help. There is a whole other life out there – one that you can really enjoy.
| PsychicAccess.com.Nancy is a Canadian native and Indigo/Star Child, born with a heightened spiritual awareness. She’s been communicating with Angels since the age of four and enjoys a close relationship with Mother Nature that extends to the Animal Kingdom. Attracting people and animals in need, she receives premonitions and visions and heals troubled souls through the many gifts she’s employed in this life, as well as other lifetimes before. Energetically, she draws people and animals to her and compassionately connects to every soul, drawing from her well of experience as a Social Worker, Tarot, Angel and Animal Reader, Aroma Therapist and Master Herbalist, to name but a few of her many prized offerings. If you’d like a reading with this Empathic, devoted and highly gifted Intuitive Worker, you can find Nancy at |
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