A change in spirit, and change in thought, is the only way to move forward from life situations that have held you down. I consult with individuals every day who are holding on to romantic partners, jobs, or friends that drain the life force right out of them.
There are several reasons why they believe they cannot let go of the ‘energy vampires’ in their lives. Most of their beliefs are nothing more than fear: fear of being alone, fear of not having money, or just plan fear with no real reason attached.
There really is no reason for this fear, only excuses. We have all made them at some point. We have all delayed in making important choices in our lives, because the road ahead is not clearly mapped out.
We suffer when we ‘settle’. This, I believe, is disrespecting our spirit-selves, when we totally ignore the signs that are sent our way just in the name of not having to make any decisions.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward – C. S. Lews
Yes, it can be a scary thought to leave a relationship that you have grown accustomed to. Although it hasn’t been very healthy or happy, it’s at least been there!
There is a term I use quite frequently with my clients who feel that, unless they have another person waiting for them on the sideline, they could not possibly leave the relationship they are currently in. They don’t want to be alone!
I call it the Monkey Syndrome – the inability to let go of whatever you are hanging onto, until something else has presented itself. Imagine if you will a monkey holding onto a branch and swinging in a tree, at the same moment he grabs another branch while holding onto the one he’s hanging from. There, you have got it…now freeze frame.
There are two possible scenarios in this analogy. One is that the monkey cannot let go of either branch. So he’s forever stuck. The other is that he keeps letting go of one branch after the other, while grabbing new ones each time, as he swings along. In this case the monkey never takes time to rest or reflect; he just keeps grabbing new branches. This metaphor truly represents the behavior we have all displayed at one time or another, doesn’t it?
As a child I was the best tree climber in our neighbourhood, I was like a little monkey. I’ve never been afraid of hurting myself or a little physical discomfort – Rachel Weisz
The most important part of keeping our spirit healthy and happy is to let go of whatever is no longer serving your personal and spiritual well-being. Only then will your energy allow new positive experience into our live.
When we hold onto situations it is parallel to building a brick wall in front of us, with no door, and expecting someone to walk through it. We have basically ‘walled’ ourselves in and then question why there is no change in our lives.
It is a rare situation indeed when ‘Mr. Right’ turns out to be the neighbor’s husband, while you’re working on divorcing your own. Amongst all that negative energy, when can your own healing truly begin? This is not what the human experience is all about, yet there are so many souls doing just that. We are not here to suffer, yet we will continue to inflict more pain upon ourselves.
A person who misses a chance and the monkey who misses its branch can’t be saved – Indian Proverb
My wish for mankind is the ability to love and respect ourselves. Look in the mirror each and every day and tell yourself you’re worth it. Tell yourself: “I love you, I believe in you”. Release the old, and welcome the new. Healing takes place when we give ourselves the space and time to reflect and learn to love ourselves first and foremost.
If you make it a priority to clean up one situation at a time in your life, without complicating it further by adding to it, the results will be positive. Even though at times we must feel uncomfortable, feel pain, feel struggle, ultimately that is not who we are. It is only what we are temporarily going through.
The Monkey Syndrome only serves to prolong positive outcomes. Be free, love freely and stay away from just ‘any old branch’.
| PsychicAccess.com.Isthemus is an experienced psychic advisor with her own Metaphysical Company based out of the Fraser Valley of British Columbia. A natural born empath, clairsentient, clairvoyant, intuitive Counsellor and psychic advisor. Patty still does Paranormal Investigations as well as teaching workshops on how to interpret signs. You can talk to Isthemus at |
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