Soul connections and soulmates are very different from life partner relationships. People who do not encounter a soulmate or soul connection, often settle down with a life partner. These relationships are very satisfying, meaningful and based on respect and friendship, but are immensely different from the feeling of a soul connection or soulmate.
Soul connections are relationships that impact us so strongly that we can’t shake the feeling of the other person and the depth we are feeling. They literally live within our soul and spirit. If you have ever had a soul connection, you will know exactly what I am talking about. A soul connection makes your life feel complete and enriches your journey in ways that you never dreamed possible.
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
Each relationship is different and some people wait a lifetime to meet their soulmate, while others wait several lifetimes. Life can be hard and challenging, and there are many factors that persuade us to choose relationships that are not soul connections and they are as meant to be as the soul connection. Never underestimate the depth and meaning of a life partner, they are the people who guide us, support us and stand by our side through thick and thin.
Connecting and meeting our soulmate in this lifetime is to be blessed. Soul connections are unlike anything you have ever experienced before and can make you feel more aware and alive. These connections go so deep you can often feel as if you finally found your way home. However, there is sometimes also a flip side. If you are not ready for it, you can feel unstable, out-of-control and fearful.
These relationships feel so “right” and are so real that words cannot express the depth and magnetic attraction you feel towards each other. Deep down, you know it’s the real deal. You stop to take in how wonderful you feel; the world lights up, you feel them when they are far away and you feel them think of you. It is deep, real and wild. You know this is someone to hold on to and cherish.
Soulmate relationships are sometimes not permanent and they can be friends or lovers, and last forever or have a time limit. These wonderful beautiful souls spark within us great creativity. They ignite within us a soul fire that gently reminds us that life is to be lived and loved. They make us remember our dreams and the things that we have come to do, and express from the gift the God Force gave us. These relationships are a gift and remind us of our dream, because they open our hearts. When our hearts are open, love flows and where love flows energy goes.
When a soul connection leaves, it is usually a time of terrible sorrow. We are miserable and can’t catch our breath. We are certain that life won’t continue and that we will never love again or be loved like that. But we miss the real reason for the break in the relationship.
Soul connections do have their issues, just like any relationship, and can be life changing for one or both parties, depending on the factors and experiences of each individual. “Individual” is the key word. We must always remember that we are individuals and will continue to be individuals. Everyone has their own set of experiences, and experiences can determine our behavior in relationships – especially if we are unaware of their impact on our lives.
A soulmate is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves ~ Edgar Cayce
Our perceptions are a conglomeration of all the experiences we have had and how we have learned to react consciously or unconsciously. These perceptions and reactions affect our thoughts, which also create our reality. The way we perceive life and the thoughts we hold do and will affect our soul connection.
So, what happens when the other person doesn’t return those feelings, or leaves us? We feel out-of-control and behave in ways that we would not typically act.
When you encounter a deep connection, such as a soul connection or soulmate, it can pull the two of you apart if you and your soulmate have not learned to love yourselves and express that love for yourself. When you love yourself, loves comes to you naturally and effortlessly. When we attach our identity, our essence and need for love to our soulmate, we unknowingly drag them down with us. The weight of our need begins to rob the deep connection that originally brought us together. In order to keep and experience that depth, we must move the focus off of the other person and back onto ourselves. The only person who can fill your cup is you. The only person who can make you happy is you and the only person who can live your life, is you.
When we are separated from the one we love, we need to do our inner work. Find your passion, rid yourself of the things that no longer serve you and find what makes you happy. Ignite the fire within and live the life you were meant to live. Each day take a step toward what you want and let go of the things you don’t want. Be the you that you are when you are with your soul connection. The wisdom in doing the work is knowing that although we may be separated, there is the eventuality of reuniting after months or years, because each person have done their inner work and have had their experiences, which they otherwise would not because they were not growing.
As strong as these relationships are they do not always seem spiritual and pure. They can come with a lot of hair on them. If one party has an addiction, fears intimacy, is terrified of what they feel or is in a relationship with someone else, it can feel devastatingly empty for the person holding the love. Recognizing that each life has its pattern and lessons is crucial as it will redirect your focus to begin to call upon spirit to help guide your way.
I have read for several couples over the years that have been married and divorced to each other repeatedly in this lifetime. They love each other and they hate each other, sometimes all at the same time. It sounds extreme, because it does not reflect the ideas that we were “sold” about what a soul connection is supposed to feel like. I don’t believe anyone can tell you what your soul connection is supposed to feel like, but I can tell you that if it is physically abusive, the relationship should be avoided. Relationships are made up of many energies. Your relationship is yours and only you know what it feels like. Stay true to that and know that the spiritual connection of a soul connection is yours to uncover and reveal its true potential and the underlying lessons and meaning behind it.
A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise ~ Richard Bach
It is never easy being separated from the very heart that you feel beats in time with your own. As unfathomable as it may seem, there are often lessons that cannot be learned while we are in a relationship. Looking back, most couples who come back together will admit that they are not the same person and the lessons were necessary.
Each person comes to the relationship with familial, societal and karmic emotional, physical and mental influences. These create and form patterns from our early years. Unless we diligently assess ourselves prior to entering into relationships, we will find that we create the same patterns over and over in relationships and pull to us people with whom we repeat the same patterns. That is until you meet your soul connection. Soul connections help us grow, and growth means change. Change can mean pain if we resist the breaking of patterns that no longer serve us. Soul connections bring to us exactly what we need, not necessarily what we want. They are the catalyst for change and it is usually because they leave us. Therefore, they can hurt and make us feel as if we are being burned to ash in a white hot pit of fire.
If we are feeling this strongly about someone, it is probably someone we have met in a past life before. The instant feeling of connection you get with a soulmate is that they “get you” and the “butterflies” that you feel whenever you think of them. You know because they never leave your energy field or your consciousness, and there is a telepathic connection between the two of you.
These relationships are not always romantic or uplifting. They can trigger feelings of severe dislike and can even cross gender boundaries. Since everything is energy, the attraction is energy and we are reacting to it. We most likely are being karmically drawn to it for better or worse.
People often ask if they have a choice to not pursue these types of relationships. The answer is always yes! Of course you have free will, but how many times do we exercise free will when we are drawn so intensely to another person? I think that a simple shift in consciousness can better help us deal with these types of relationship when they begin to falter. And the answer may well be hidden in a past life encounter or relationship. The more you are open to looking at what the relationship has to teach you, will help you begin to free yourself of the pain from the past and also better take you to the life you want to live. It all works together and everything is connected.
First, forgive yourself and others who hurt or harmed. Let go of the past, and make a firm resolution to love and release anger and resentment. The more you love and forgive, the more you grow on a soul level to meet the emotional, spiritual and mental challenges you are faced with and heal them.
The couples I refer to above, who married and divorced each other several times, individually worked on themselves while they were apart and came back together to heal their soul connection. Many of them are still together. Some chose to heal their relationships and become friends and some moved on to other relationships without healing. For those relationships that healed, the common thread to healing was the simple question directed to their guides and heaven: “Show me what you need to show me.” Their willingness and open heartedness was not directed at anyone but themselves. As they healed, their significant other also healed. The Universe is amazing, as this presented the opportunity for the two people to reunite and heal. Remember, it’s all about love and forgiveness. Love is powerful. Use it to guide you.
| PsychicAccess.com.Jacklyn is able to read the heart and energy patterns of others, uncovering the true intentions that create their realities. She lives in Northern California, where she’s counseled over 3000 clients, and has worked with police on missing person and cold cases. She’s read for clients around the world, consistently astonishing them with her abilities. An expert in Tarot, Astrology and Dream Interpretation, for over thirty-five years, she’s utilized these tools to see, hear and feel messages on just about every subject. Jacklyn is a firm believer that we are the creators of our own lives and knows that Miracles are built on faith. As long as you believe, anything is possible! If you’d like a reading with this Intuitive Wonder, you can reach Jacklyn at |
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