Many spiritually aware people and lightworkers seem so anxious to not be in their own body, or to not be who they incarnated to be. Hours are spent talking to angels, entities or spirits, while the physical body they inhabit is neglected, childhood issues are ignored, and current fears repressed.
There is also a kind of codependency, where an individual focuses solely on others to be their helper. This makes them feel good about themselves, and proud of their actions and self-appointed priorities. Being a self-appointed helper also releases one from other responsibilities, such as feeling one’s own emotions and dealing with them in a constructive manner. The “helper” is also freed from any criticism (from self or others. After all, the helper person is so good, and only has good intentions. How can anyone criticize them? And finally, the helper person can always cry victim later by saying: “After all I’ve done for you…!” Instead a balanced assessment of one’s own actions or reactions should be made.
As you grow older, you’ll discover that you have two hands: One for helping yourself, the second for helping others ~ Sam Levenson
There can be a great deal of ego involved in being a “helper” – especially being a self-appointed helper. It creates a false propping up of the ego and a fragile sense of self that is built on the external and often controlling results that can be measured by “how much one helped someone.” All of this “helping” is based on achieving results that look good including most of all the reactions of the “other” that is receiving the help – whether they want it or asked for it, or not. This is primarily a Western concept, or perhaps we should say, ailment.
When one is invested in being a helper, there is a great deal of pressure both internally and externally to produce good results in the moment. To look good, is to feel good. If you read the accounts of Eastern teachings, often the guru goes to extreme measures to help a student “wake up” or advance spiritually. These actions look “crazy” and in fact would not be tolerated in the West. Yet the outcomes are spectacular.
It takes an incredible imagination and lack of ego to move a human off of his or her current position of being stuck or being “right” in order to help the person advance spiritually. Most in the West are not willing to do that, especially if they make a good living from their clients. Eastern gurus, in comparison, mostly trust Spirit to take care of income, food, and so forth. In the East, teachers work on their own self by having a strong disciplined daily spiritual practice. If students come or go, that is not their concern.
We are told to let our light shine, and if it does, we won’t need to tell anybody it does. Lighthouses don’t fire cannons to call attention to their shining- they just shine ~ Dwight L. Moody
When we work on our self, we make ourselves a better tool to be used by Spirit. Just shifting our own energy with a practice of self-enlightenment and self-growth and development, affects all around us: people, animals, the environment. This is a precept of quantum physics: change the orbit of one electron and the entire substance changes. The electron does not need to go out and “help” the other electrons to change.
We need more people taking responsibility for their own growth and development. Take daily inventory of your actions and attitudes, make daily amends to yourself and others. Strengthen your own spiritual connection. Eat healthy and care for your body. Clean your house, both internally and externally. Then let Spirit place you where Spirit thinks you will do the most good – whether that means you are a mom, a janitor or a doctor.
| PsychicAccess.com.Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client’s soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul’s sparkle, contact Nonna at |
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