Many of us work hard on our personal evolution, self-awareness, and spiritual growth. Sometimes this takes us down the trail of intense self-criticism, often leading to disparaging thoughts that we will never get “better” or be “good enough.” I have traveled down this dark trail many times myself.
In addition to this being a very cruel way to treat yourself, it is a radioactive attitude that leaks out into other relationships in our life. Even if it does not manifest in overt ways, we all know energy travels… and energy travels all the time. Self-hatred cannot be contained; it changes the orbits of our electrons.
The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore ~ C. JoyBell C
In extreme cases (and you have to wonder how I know about this, don’t you?) we might even think Spirit made a mistake with placing us on this Earth. If we bottom-out with that thought, it helps to remember that we should not try to out-create the Creator. The platypus, porcupine, skunk, wolverine, and even the maggot are all works of the Creator, and they all have a place in this world. No one is better or worse than the other. So, who are we to decide we are a mistake?
We alone cannot ruin anything. We are always in relationship to something and Spirit is always working in our life, whether we acknowledge it or not. It is just like breathing air is always occurring, whether we are paying attention to it or not.
Change can start immediately, simply by becoming more self-aware. We know that subatomic particles behave differently the moment they are observed. When we consider something, when we observe, we emit energy and that energy changes our reality experience.
Change is microscopic so we don’t have to take a hammer and chisel to our own, sweet self. Change is inherent in every moment of life. The moment two dogs look at each other they begin to change. The moment we consider and reflect upon our actions, energy travels and we start to shift.
A rose does not criticize itself for being “not such a good rose.” It just continues to be the best rose it can be, given the circumstances it’s living in. A gentler way to look at what we might call ruining relationships or circumstances in our life, would be instead to look at choices we’ve made and how we might like to do it differently in the future.
Most of the shadows of life are caused by standing in our own sunshine ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
When on a spiritual path, we can take inventory of our day and examine how we handled the events and encounters of the day -including our interactions with ourselves. Then we can spend some time reflecting on how we could have handled the day with more love, compassion, patience and humor.
We can also pray for Guidance to help us with our desire to react differently in the future. This way we gently grow and are able make different choices based on time spent in self-reflection, prayer and meditation. Time spent on these activities are fertilizer for the soul and can bring forgiveness, add patience, compassion, humor and inner peace to our daily life.
There is no self-criticism in this approach, only self-consideration. This is a non-violent, organic, kind and compassionate way to grow closer to yourself and to enhance your Spiritual connection.
| PsychicAccess.com.Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client’s soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul’s sparkle, contact Nonna at |
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