Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, and today a gift from Spirit. That is why it is called “the present.” The present is a gift – one that is often ignored.
At any given moment we can be miserable. Life is a constant series of choices and decisions. We decide what we want to pay attention too and what we let go. This can be a dangerous path if you are in denial, unconsciously running away from your feelings, living in a fantasy world, using magical, unrealistic thinking, smoking lots of marijuana, abusing alcohol, and so forth. You can indeed ignore reality and red flags.
We live in the world, but we do not control it. A wonderful saying from the Twelve Step program is: “do the footwork, let go of the results.” We should add to that, “and don’t forget to smell the roses.”
The present moment is never intolerable. What’s intolerable is what’s going to happen in the next four hours. To have your body here at 8 pm and your mind at 10:30 pm, that’s what causes us suffering ~ Anthony de Mello
A balance is needed. Staying in the present, making plans, yet letting go of control. This “letting go” is not resignation, but rather surrender and acceptance. It is a disciplined, challenging juggling act, but one worth mastering!
No matter how bad or how scary moments of life can be, there are moments to treasure, like diamonds sitting on black velvet; butterflies landing on a flower; the sigh of contented dog on the floor. We can gather these moments throughout the day, one flower at a time, until we have a bouquet.
People tell me how hard this balancing act is. I wonder. I wonder if it is just hard to break a habit? Every day we gather moments and put them together to describe our day. For many of us the habit is to gather the moments of despair, feelings of failure, and predictions of fear.
But once you get into the habit of gathering the moments of truly connecting with others, seeing a hummingbird, enjoying a meal, laughing with a cashier at the store, you soon find that it is not such hard work. That is the beauty of new habits. They become replacements for the old habits, and in this way new habits are easily implemented.
If your habit of gathering moments of the day needs changing, make the effort. Settle into the new habit of finding those moments that work for you, each day in each situation. Make your plans, and make part of your plan to enjoy the trail, not just the destination.
But man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you are truly in dire circumstances, first remember life never stays the same, it always changes. This too shall pass. If it rains, play in the rain. If someone is dying, enjoy the sweet sorrow and joy knowing they will go to a better place, and you have been blessed to know and love them. Remember, not everyone has someone to love in their lifetime.
If you are in poverty, find someone worse off than you to help or share some time with. Companionship, sharing sorrows, reaching out – these too can be moments in the dark and they don’t cost a cent.
This is not easy work; it is easier to be overcome by sorrow and fear. But it is worthwhile work. Either way, you cannot control the events but you can control how you care for yourself given the circumstances. Parent yourself, be your own best friend. It will serve you well in the present as well as in the future. Become strong enough to find moments of joy.
Life will change and you will be in better shape when the changes come, if you don’t let yourself be devastated or debilitated by challenging times. When life gets better, you don’t want to have to spend years in recovery, because you did not take good care of yourself in the down times. And there are always down times, just like there is always weather. But the sun always shines, even in times when it is hidden behind storm clouds.
| PsychicAccess.com.Nonna lives in Southern California, and is a professor of psychology and a teacher of psychic development, energy work and meditation, who has recently finished her PhD. She has been a counselor for both humans and animals for thirty years, removing energy blocks through her expertise in the spiritual arts. She also has numerous years of study and practice with classic psychological therapeutic models, family work, twelve-step processes, nutritional and body/mind/spirit healing, complementary, alternative, and quantum medicine. Nonna is brilliant at unearthing the gems in every client’s soul and polishing them to a fine finish. To release your own soul’s sparkle, contact Nonna at |
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