The word empathy has become a definite 21st century buzzword. But what does it really mean? What is empathy? Is it right to have it, is it a hindrance, is it wrong to feel too much? Do we need to feel someone else at a distance? Wouldn’t it be smarter to be with them now?
To identify with an idea, a concept or a feeling may be a symptom of heightened or continuous abandonment. I remember when I left Africa I could intuit my friends from afar – hear their concern, feel their love, even through time changes and the differing seasons. It kept me connected to them and my beautiful past.
Having traversed many different countries and continents, I found that I was constantly leaving people behind. I was brought up, as many Europeans, as a traveler and this is what travelers do. Yet, perhaps in all, a person like me is not an ideal traveler, in longing to being able to pack my friend’s love into my suitcase with me.
Upon reflection, it was a good comfort to have. Yet it also kept me tied to the ‘what if’s’, the past, the memories and perhaps always a shadow of a behind muted reality. If I needed to escape, I could call upon the memory, and not only taste it, but relive it in a 3D memory of itself, preserved in its sometimes decades old past out of the sentimentality of leaving one’s life behind many times.
It takes bravery to constantly leave, and even as one gets older, the chasms of these memories get deeper and deeper. There is not much one can do to attain old selves, we shed them. Even if our friends do not change, we do, so in preserving an emotion, a love, a memory state can only work for so long.
It was like a text message, and I could tell if someone was longing for me or not. What could be better than that? What could have been better was staying. I think there are many decisions one can make in one’s life, and to some extent, if one has to utilize telepathy and concepts, to retain one’s sense of peace, perhaps that decision would not have been left alone.
So, to never be alone, perhaps by carrying the sense of one’s older selves, bringing ones memories and old selves along may not be productive, and perhaps a focused empath is holding onto parts of themselves through other people, old selves, that they need to shed. Yet only now, in our new world, with the inexpensive options for travel, can we reach beyond our own expectations, at high speed, into the unknown. Adventure, change, challenges…all these ideas are fed into our subconscious by the sheer speed at which other’s lives seem to pass us by, that we try and move beyond them too.
Yet, I have found, in that race to find the place ahead of, the spot in the lead, the one step ahead and away, that one will simply continue to miss a new set of people, constantly evade the self, and this is our survivalist selves forging ahead, yet it may not have to be turned on all the time.
This natural bonding in the present moment that we have with people has to be real. Not in a quantum computer setting, not in the electric underworld, not within the dreams of the people we aspire to be, but with real people, our real friends, our real selves. Perhaps in spending the time with our real life connections, we can forge new bonds that do not need telepathy or a super-human effort to reconnect. After all, are these people not with us here and now?
Do think about your motivations for telepathy or empathy. Empathy is the absorption of someone else’s emotions, perhaps to our benefit, often at our own expense. We can decide whether we can use it to better others, or enrich our lives. Yet, when it becomes a substitute, this is when you should reach back into your natural self and not reside within the shadow of a past love, a place so far away, only to be reached by impulse and not through matter.
This is how friendships are formed, not in the wish, not in the longing, not in the anticipation – but in shared boredom, anxiety, frustration and tragedies. Friendships are formed not through distance, but through the more banal, the more mundane, the every day, sadness, repetition, disagreement and even betrayal, and even should we want to get away, we are forming that moment we wish to maintain.
And perhaps without this magic, we would not have a need to reconnect with that every day in the future. Relish it and live within it. In the Now. Live within the present. Nothing matters more than human connection. And this will never change.
| PsychicAccess.com.Carmen’s waking dreams have provided accurate glimpses into the future for celebrities as well as political and international figures. Her non-judgmental, Empathic approach, as well as her unique method of Tarot reading, affords her the reputation as a groundbreaker in her field. This European born Canadian is the first online psychic to promote the idea of Empathy and emotional thought transference, and she has written a great deal on the subject. For a comprehensive Intuitive reading that will transform your life, you can find Carmen at |
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