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Why We Hold Onto Impossible Relationships

Get a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comPsychic readings can provide insight into the motivation, thoughts and behavior of the people in our life. For this reason many readings look into relationships. We ask many questions. Why hasn’t he called? When will he call? Is she thinking of me? Will we get back together? Will we get married?

In every situation, the answers to these questions play out differently. But there are reasons why the beloved doesn’t call, or doesn’t call frequently enough:

1. They are too busy. Then we think, “well, I would never be too busy to remember to call if I really liked the person.” I have experienced being too busy to call a loved one back. Yes, it is possible. In one recent instance, after two weeks of not returning a call, my friend called again to see if I was alright.

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves ~ Greg Behrendt

The last thing I want to do is talk on the phone after or during my online time at My personal time is important to me. Or, I’ve been fixing up the house and my energy is depleted. I have nothing to say, I can only listen. But I’d rather curl up with a good book, or “veg out” in front of the TV.

2. Psychically predicting when a person will call has to be among the hardest to accurately pinpoint. Free will is never so true as it is in this situation. Time ranges are more accurate than specific days with one exception in my case: I can accurately predict hours or one day.

3. The real question is not “is he thinking of me?” It’s “is he thinking of me as much as I’m thinking of him?” The obvious answer is “no.” Most of my callers are women, and the explanation is that men and women are just wired differently.

I’ve read instances where the guy is too stressed out at work to switch gears and try to have a friendly conversation. If by chance he does call despite being stressed, we read this as his being “cold” or not personal and loving. But, it’s not about you – it’s just hard for him to switch gears.

Text messages, or lack of them, are the most difficult for us. If the pattern of send and respond changes to less frequent, panic sets in. The fear of losing this man takes over and causes lack of productivity, lack of self-nurturing, and constant anxiety.

I told her I’d wait forever for her, but that was before I found somebody else who’d give me a ride home ~ Jarod Kintz

If you’ve expressed your desire to have more frequent contact or other attentions, and your partner does not follow through, then what are you waiting for? If this cannot be resolved in a conversation, you can be sure 100% that this behavior carries through to other situations. Why do you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to please you, or make you happy?

I’ve psychically read partners who are verbally, and sometimes physically abusive. Yet we cling to them? We make excuses for them? What is this powerful hold they have on us, even though it is unpleasant, corrodes our self-confidence, and embarrasses us in front of others?

“But he says he loves me,” we say.

So often we hold onto the way it was in the beginning of the relationship. I call it the “honeymoon period.” He’s loving, attentive, wants to have children with you. So, we hold on to those words of the past and want that guy who he was in the beginning. The real person is who you see now. That’s reality. When the words and actions do not match, believe the actions, not the words!

As an empath, I can feel your pain, where it hurts, in the crown chakra, the solar plexus, the heart. Yet we hold on and call psychics for reassurance that he loves us. At this point, we are feeling insecure or unsettled.

“But I love him,” we say.

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too ~ Ernest Hemingway

In 95% of instances, this is where I want to ask you to step back and address your panic. In a truly objective sense, it is disproportionate to the situation.  Where does it come from? You’ve known each other for four months, six months, a year—a relatively short time compared to your past and future years on earth. If we were to drill down to the root cause of this anxiety it’s fear. Usually the fear of being alone.

Is it better to be paired, as a couple, at the sacrifice of a true partnership, and reciprocal caring and tenderness? Or do you bravely walk away and free yourself to attract the real Mr. Right?

Fear is a very powerful and sometimes scary experience. Dare to take a chance and seek a mate where it’s a 50/50 relationship, where you each put an equal amount into it. You don’t have to settle for second best. Trust that you will find the right person, believe that you will, and you will.

About The Author: Dianna

As a conduit to Spirit since birth Dianna provides channeled information from her Guides, Archangels, Ascended Masters & Animal Spirits. During readings, information comes to her through telepathy, empathy, visual images and physical sensations. She additionally uses Automatic Writing for very specific details and timing, Tarot and the Lenormand Cards. Dianna's specialties are providing you with remarkably accurate answers to your questions using her psychic consciousness to assist you in reaching new and rewarding goals. A Libra/Aquarius rising with three grand trines in her chart, Dianna has chosen to use her psychic gifts and Reiki Healing Energy to help others, providing practical answers to life's questions plus healing and clearing blockages. You can get a psychic reading from Dianna at

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