Time and time again I receive calls from clients asking the age old question, “why did my old flame reappear in my life?” My answer depends on what I see, as far as the energy between them goes. Is there something left to be played out? Is it to test your resolve, for there is a reason they left your life. That person being represented to you is asking you “Do you really want this”? The answers are varied, to say the least.
So many of us mourn past relationships, thinking of the “what if’s” What if we gave it more time? What if I didn’t say those things? Or done those things? Should I have fought harder? So many questions, and so many “what if’s.”
Real love stories never have endings ~ Richard Bach
Bottom line is that the relationship did end, and the reasons don’t matter. One simple thing all possible answers to this age old question have in common is that whatever happened was a deal breaker for one, or both parties.
When a past love connection steps back into your life, be cautious, for many can be swept into a renewed “honeymoon period” for a short time. But then all the old problems resurface, simply because they were never resolved in the first place.
More often than not our emotions come to the forefront, before any logical thoughts. The honeymoon period is awash with all the old warm fuzzy feelings, anything that was negative doesn’t seem to be present during this period. As in real life, honeymoons do not last long, then reality rears its head… and you may be faced with the unbending truth that this was, and is an unhealthy relationship for you both.
Each of us have a personal journey. Lessons and life-altering events can happen that change our perceptions. We evolve. Everyone does to some degree. When two lives converge for a second time, after these life-altering experiences, many things may have changed. How they deal with each other is first and foremost.
Here you have two evolved souls that have been brought together again. Will their dynamics be different? Of course! These can be the most romantic, heartfelt stories ever told. They have both grown and now truly value what brought them together in the first place. The way they communicate has altered, perhaps the judgment fell away, or the defensiveness. Both are now witness to increased emotional maturity, and a wonderful relationship can blossom from their new foundation.
Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment ~ Deepak Chopra
On occasion, these reunions can be part of a healing journey, to use the cliché of “tying up loose ends.” It is the closing of an unfinished chapter in their book of life. Both parties walk away feeling good about the connection and the clearing of the air, so to speak.
Remember to release things that no longer serve you, whether that be a belief, or a person or a memory. Holding onto that energy stops you from moving forward in your life. No one should be put in the position of placing your life on hold.
If you have been reintroduced to a past flame, remember not to fall into old patterns. If you sense that nothing has changed and have a ‘fire alarm’ going off in your head, take it as a sign. Acknowledge the red flags, especially those signs that “this is familiar”, because familiar doesn’t necessarily mean “good.” Remember, you do not need to wait for someone else to make a decision before you make one for yourself.
There is purpose in each and every scenario, whether it be to heal, deal or seal an open energy source that found its way back to you. Figuring it all out can be cumbersome, for our heads and our hearts battle each other at the best of times. Truly throw the gloves off in the worst of them. At the end of the day, trust your instinctive self when you hear a truth and it resonates, you will then know what the answer is.
| PsychicAccess.com.Isthemus is an experienced psychic advisor with her own Metaphysical Company based out of the Fraser Valley of British Columbia. A natural born empath, clairsentient, clairvoyant, intuitive Counsellor and psychic advisor. Patty still does Paranormal Investigations as well as teaching workshops on how to interpret signs. You can talk to Isthemus at |
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