If the cultural mood is that of compassion, then surely compassion should be authentic. And authenticity should be joyful. This would logically point most people in the direction of thinking that happier-looking people are more compassionate or empathic. Yet hark, no! This is not the case!
Look at our planet. Do we not have many avenues for compassion, yet it seems the sheer options we have open to choose compassion seems to complicate the beauty of creating love for love’s sake, without the term of altruism, or empathy.
Too many times I have been witness to people saying they are compassionate, and think they are, yet may not be, or may simply be trying to fit in to be so. I herald these people for trying as they are what keeps our world going. If it weren’t for the people that tried, then people that did not have altruistic tendencies would have nothing to aspire to, or against.
And if people didn’t have the option not to try, they probably would not decide to be altruistic. Like a child countering any idea, people are free to decide to see if it works for them. And so far, we are deep in options, yet mired in paralysis.
Yet, altruism differs from empathy. An altruist can be anyone wanting to help. This is from giving money to a poor person, donating to charities, or to rich benefactors. Mostly going back to many historical traditions, such as the medieval tradition of tithing, this being a major element of many cultures, often times predominant in the middle eastern cultures, does not determine the level of empathy or compassion in a society.
Thus, even a person, organization or individual does not have to give much to feel good about giving. And with the added intrigue of withholding being a form of giving, in order to teach a codependent person how to not be abused, this definition has morphed its shape in the 21st century. Now with human and civil rights, “No” is the new “Yes.” No has never been seen as a good example of giving, yet we are adjusting to this as a concept.
So, when you think of Empaths, you can either be reminded of pious and proper role-models in our history, or you can even look at the often times overlooked individuals never being regarded for their traditional role in empathy as having some. This would mean to re-evaluate the most obvious persons for what could be offered or inferred as compassionate, such as blindly trusting religious persons, teachers, abusive family or negligent doctors…to get over our ‘white coat syndrome’ (the blind respect for medical authority for example), blind religious faith, and to judge people not on their work, but on their deeds and most importantly not only their good but their bad ones.
As the true curve of life experience would be engendered by the arc of transforming radically redefining the soul as a truer vector of compassion, hard won and often painful, down trodden and often beaten, angry and often turned inwards, true empaths need not be outwardly kind, but need the experience to know when not to be. So, the person you think least able to feel is probably just masking it and feeling a proportionate amount of self protection and has decided not to say Yes, as compassion is also in saying No. And no means no.
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