I had a very emotional childhood with many ups and downs, lefts and rights.
My mother has always been the only parent present in my life, yet I spent years holding so much anger and blame trying to understand her. At this point in my life I cannot say we are emotionally close. That’s something I can’t control, but I learned to accept it.
However, my mom remains present in my life and offers support to the best of her ability. I am very grateful for that.
I have come to realize that we sometimes spend too much time trying to figure another person out or we try too hard to make them see our point of view. In the process we waste much energy on the “what if” and the “why me”. We lose sight of the fact that we have a choice.
Our mothers always remain the strangest, craziest people we’ve ever met ~ Marguerite Duras
We have free will. We can choose to be grateful; we can choose to look at everything in a completely different way. Give the people in your life the benefit of the doubt and focus on what’s really important.
Firstly, there is no accident. Our souls choose our parents and life circumstances to learn and experiences certain lessons for our spiritual advancement. The tougher the life the more knowledge wisdom is there to be gained. I am approaching 30 and have learned to accept that people are simply who they are. I appreciate what they have to offer and don’t ask for more than what they truly can give.
We all have the right to be validated, we all have that need to feel validated. But what if it never happens from that person we so desperately want it from? What if you never get that recognition? You still have to live, breathe, go on and be happy. You can’t let it defeat you! Life is a mixture of choices and fate. Things happen for a reason. Even in our choices we choose something for a reason. Why not choose to be grateful? Appreciate what you do have, not what you don’t have.
Don’t devalue yourself based on others’ ill will or bad experiences from past relationships you’ve had. Work on loving you yourself. You are the only person you can change and the only person you can control. Even in the darkest or lowest point in your life, aim to have gratitude and hope. Find something in your life that makes it all worthwhile. Never surrender. Never throw in that towel.
Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it ~ Ann Landers
Sometimes we hold on to things when we should have let go a long time ago. We are stubborn. We don’t want to listen to that voice inside. We want what we want, and we try to make it fit when that person or situation just doesn’t fit. We try to control life instead of going with the flow and trusting. But it’s never too late. That’s the beauty of life; we always have second chances until our last breath.
We cannot change the past. In the moment is where our true power is… in our current actions. It’s not about letting someone win, because they are only winning when you become consumed by it. Win for yourself by forgiving, or just simply letting it go.
There is no right and wrong, just emotion and perception. We cannot change someone else’s perception. Just remember the change starts within us and once we evolve it sends out that message and others will follow or treat you differently.
About The Author: Lyndsey is an Empathic Intuitive living on the East Coast, adept in the use of numerology and astrology. She engages in meditation before every reading, and incorporates the messages she receives from her guides. She'll even save you the cost of a pregnancy test, having accurately predicted all of her friends' pregnancies including the genders of the unborn babies! Lyndsey knows what it's like to struggle with anxiety and has all the psychic tools to help you become empowered and confident. If you'd like a reading with this incredibly accurate and mystical lady, you can find Lyndsey at PsychicAccess.com.
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