I know I may tend to sound somewhat old-fashioned starting my paragraphs with ‘with the advent of social networking’ yet now due to the new venues and a myriad of platforms open to us, people are now no longer is in the dominion of linear and logical dating patterns. This all changed within five years. Even texting only became popular in the last few years. So unless you are younger than five years of age, you may disagree with me.
I don’t mean to comment on it on a moral or emotional level, but more on the level of confusion it can cause for my clients, the rebounding both between them and the exes that miss them, the past loves they miss, the new and the interim loves, the potential dates and the casual conversation– and as friends and in support of each other we have to remain flexible and understand our new era as being in-between and busy, a multitude of relationships and people. Most of them we must humor, tolerate, excuse and entertain.
I often note that many of my readings now contain phrases such as ‘he has an obsessive ex’ or ‘there is someone interested in him’ or ‘I think I feel three women around him’ and so on – yet these statements are not unusual anymore as most people are now networked and often battling a confusing array of social rules, associations, friends groups, fan groups and their friends and potential lovers.
What I am finding is that most of my poor clientele are having to explain or read into increasingly complex relationship issues, which to most of us is an extra aggravation or time waster. Worry not, it is the usual state of affairs and I am used to having to explain obscure challenges.
When I began working in this industry there were only basic platforms, such as newsgroups, blogs, or MySpace – purpose or interest driven networking groups. Now through the internet being a communiqué for millions of active love and relationship and job seekers and other interests, most of them tend to cycle in and out through the breath of heartbreak and reunion and blind, unbridled chaos.
Often the chain of persons allow for some type of healing and resolution, even if only through temporary unions. This confuses us, and confuses all genders and makes for a more fragmented and possibly gloomy outlook. There are some positives. What this can do is help the person cope in a different manner, when under too much pressure they may be benefit for people to network en masse – to soothe themselves, yet I wonder when the point of strain is reached, when too many of us have been burned or lost to a million conversations?
In other words, is there perhaps there is a ‘Goldilocks’ effect as to which the limit of friends per real friend can be attained without straining existing real life relationships? Like a friend parts per million (PPM)? At which point does this level get pushed to the point of saturation, strain or ineffectiveness?
I do not know the answer to this question, yet in a sense I have to simply note my perhaps somewhat banal observation – that many people are transitioning between relationships, now openly. Perhaps this is what human nature was meant to do. Perhaps some of us do not, which balances out the stresses of this type of human adaptation. Perhaps we need to assuage our fears through unfinished sentences, random thoughts, fragmented conversations, our muted selves and online chimeras. If that is what makes us safe, then if they be happy, perhaps this is a new way to be, though I wonder if some of the ‘lifers’ out there, people like myself don’t have to adapt and rather focus on just one person at a time, one spirit at a time.
About The Author: Carmen’s waking dreams have provided accurate glimpses into the future for celebrities as well as political and international figures. Her non-judgmental, Empathic approach, as well as her unique method of Tarot reading, affords her the reputation as a groundbreaker in her field. This European born Canadian is the first online psychic to promote the idea of Empathy and emotional thought transference, and she has written a great deal on the subject. For a comprehensive Intuitive reading that will transform your life, you can find Carmen at PsychicAccess.com.
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