Every day we are bombarded with different types of situations and issues to deal with. We come into contact with different people from all walks of life. Truth is, we don’t know what path they have taken to get where they are at, or what prices they may have paid in order to do so. When conflict arises with people, you must always keep that in mind.
I am reminded of a story I read in the news, of a man who slapped a crying toddler on a plane. He ended up getting arrested for it, but that’s not the point. He was flying to Atlanta to take his only child off life support. Does that excuse his actions? No. It does however explain why his nerves would be more frayed than usual.
Difficulty is inevitable. Drama is a choice ~ Anita Renfroe
You may find yourself entering conflict right now. Maybe you are dealing with someone in your life who is a ‘drama queen.’ Drama queens thrive on conflict of all kinds. There are many different severities of drama queens, but they all have one thing in common: they love and thrive on creating mountains out of molehills.
You notice these behaviors from the simplest of things – a rag left out of place, a grease spot not cleaned up from the stove after you cooked a meal, or some other minor event. Suddenly, things turn into a battle field! The drama queen will point out your flaws as if you have committed one of the seven deadly sins. Some drama queens will resort to emotional blackmail, such as threatening to kick you out of the house, or some other sort of guilt trip. Needless to say, drama queens are highly difficult people to live with, and associate with.
They come in many forms, and are often times close family. A common type of drama queen is the relationship between a drama queen mother and a grown, adult daughter. The scenario usually is such as this: the grown adult daughter, for reasons beyond her control, has to move in with her mother for an unspecified amount of time. This is where the anger and resentment usually starts, not because she has to move in with her mother, but because she has to endure her mother treating her as if she were a child.
Free yourself from the complexities and drama of your life. Simplify. Look within. Within ourselves we all have the gifts and talents we need to fulfill the purpose we’ve been blessed with ~ Steve Maraboli
Often times the drama queen mother will demand to know where the grown adult daughter is at all times, even going so far as to request that a tracking device be installed onto her phone. When the daughter objects, the drama queen mother starts her my-way-or-the-highway rant. This causes even further strain between the mother and daughter.
Here are some of the best ways to deal with a drama queen in your life:
1. Set Boundaries – what you will and will not tolerate from them, and most importantly be consistent!
2. Enforce Boundaries – this may be the most scariest part of all. Remind them you are grown.
3. Call Them On It – remind them that they are not perfect, and that nobody is. When they threaten, call them on it.
4. Obtain Distance – you may have to keep your interaction with this person to the bare minimum if you live with them. If you don’t live with them – learn to screen your calls.
5. Keep Your Privacy – keep your files under lock and key and your phone under a special access code to prevent prying eyes.
6. Learn To Say No - you don’t have to be traceable to this person. You must learn to stand your ground or they will constantly run over you. Remember you are nobody’s doormat.
About The Author: Jessica's Scottish, Irish & Native American heritage, along with her comprehensive study of religion, has afforded her a rich set of belief systems to draw upon. This, combined with her powerful Empathic & Intuitive abilities, has molded her into a unique psychic, unlike any other. Since 1999, this Southern Belle from Georgia has read for thousands, and offers every client an entire host of choices and combinations of techniques—all of them incredibly accurate! For a complete reading that will leave you full and utterly satisfied, you can find Jessica at PsychicAccess.com.
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