Many people that have the belief or mindset that there is an empathic transfer or interaction between individuals have difficulty in understanding what it actually ‘means’ when someone has feeling about you. Like many of you, I used to get fixated on the idea that they liked me at all, and I genuinely understand this. Depending on your personality, experiences or circumstances, these magic words or even just the feeling of knowing someone is or was this in love with you will keep you from appreciating the actual reality of the situation.
You may be trying to attain an unnatural sense of control over yourself if you indulge in the idea that the person loves or once loved you. Even though there is nothing wrong with this, it can compete with real life opportunities and possible new relationships and hard truths. So many of my clients get accustomed to just breathing in the knowledge that their paramour loves them, which is heady in itself, but never get to see them. This can last for years!
Bear in mind that this is simply an unexpressed fantasy state and this often will not change the outcome, your lovers’ behavior or your fates. You could be simply living in their memory, knowing that they did love you. They may even still adore you, and many of them do, but they cannot get back to you. Nothing can change back time, or take away years of other experiences, nothing can turn back the clock on a relationship. So in essence, you can still appreciate the person loves you, and you may remain there, or you can look at it objectively and in time see if it is working for you or not. This does take time, often a few months – don’t worry, that’s normal.
Many of us go back to the idea that the fact you were loved at all is the most important truth, when you have always deserved love and perhaps can only ever see it in retrospect due to the current trauma of your situation. If your partner still seems interested in you – and nothing is moving forward – nothing is changing, remember the golden words:
He or she likes me – he or she is interested in me – but that doesn’t matter.
I understand this. Despite that, nothing is changing. He wants to control me enough so that I will continue to like him, even if nothing changes and we don’t get back together. This is because he needs self-control and can only attain it by controlling others. That’s how he pays so much attention the situation – by not acting on it.
Remember nothing is happening. Even if you feel him thinking about you, even if he watches you or follows you, nothing may change for a long time, perhaps a lifetime. He prefers to keep you under his control, so this is why he doesn’t allow anything to happen between you – or you and anyone else. He likes you even though nothing is happening between you, probably because nothing is happening between you, and that’s why you feel you have no control and this keeps you there in an emotionally fearful place. Then people like you and I have to refer to psychics, or aids as reassurance, as we do not get outside validation from this person. Remember – you are actually in control, it just feels bad, which you may associate with feeling out of control. Just remember that even if he likes you – it doesn’t really matter.
| PsychicAccess.com.Carmen’s waking dreams have provided accurate glimpses into the future for celebrities as well as political and international figures. Her non-judgmental, Empathic approach, as well as her unique method of Tarot reading, affords her the reputation as a groundbreaker in her field. This European born Canadian is the first online psychic to promote the idea of Empathy and emotional thought transference, and she has written a great deal on the subject. For a comprehensive Intuitive reading that will transform your life, you can find Carmen at |
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