In relationships, at times you have the antagonist. This person is someone you have gravitated towards for healing. Healing can take the form of picking the wrong people to bring out sides in us that encourage beneficial change and self-improvement. It doesn’t always feel good. It can also come in the form of the partners and friends we meet. These friends can sometimes be abusive or negligent.
In our work, some of us may not be able to really define what a relationship is, as anyone communicating to me, qualifies as a relationship especially if it is obvious – this is often seen more in heterosexual relationships, where I have to comment again and again, that most men cannot simply be ‘friends’ with women. As long as women remember that we will be ahead of the game. This can trigger power and control issues, even if you are not sexually involved or consistent in your relationship.
Often the relationships without a physical basis or form can be even more intense, in trying to tease out hidden sides and opposing and complimentary aspects to personality. At times I will talk to clients and I will comment on ‘The Fight’. Occasionally clients will understand and agree to what the definition is. Some will say: ‘We didn’t have a fight’. This doesn’t have to be raising ones voice. This can be as subtle as not talking. A fight does not need to encompass violence or mis-communication – it can be also defined by absence, or control.
Some people tend towards thriving through fighting styles. This can also wax and wane throughout life but for the most part is ingrained. This means that even the absence of action can create or lay the groundwork for a fight. It can deepen the tensions and push it to the point of no return. There is often no winner – as both parties can be silent. Some disagreements – with no words said at all can be the most challenging and are often a prelude to initiating conflict.
Silence is not always better. It can be seen as withholding – demanding, striking or controlling. This can often have an even more shattering impact on the individuals. Propriety can be poison, so to say. Even though morals and values are valuable and extremely essential for our survival – the ‘stiff upper lip’ can cause a veil of secrecy that can be advantageous to the silent fighter. This self control in person can cause more aggressive tendencies for the entire relationship. I am not saying that you need to express yourself more or change fighting styles. All that is needed is awareness when it comes to power so that no one hits a stalemate.
Empaths are not always quiet people! I think that image is probably somewhat false – the fingers to the temples – deep concentration and intense absorption is not always the way one feels. Think of yourself in every conversation and the messages you convey and withhold. Occasionally empaths can be aggressive due to the bombardment of feeling they get from people and occasionally you will see them running from feeling through work, exercise or obsessions and frenetic activities. This means to some extent, you cannot think of them as ‘type A or B’ personalities.
So next time you don’t fight – think of the message you are sending by not speaking. Occasionally waiting for ‘it to blow over’ could be a way of denying and avoiding dire future consequences. In my experience people can even fight with smiles on their faces. Look into the motivations – do you really feel the person is trying to ‘prove a point’ by abstaining from talking – or are they genuinely hurt?
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