Over the last few years I have witnessed a change in relationships in only a brief amount of time. It seems with social networking tools being used, people have gotten themselves into lots of bad situations. With stories such as this abounding : He added me and did not email, he then added a female friend, then blocked me, then I went in under a false account etc’ ( these are the stories I hear ). I have seen numerous complications arise. People look more popular than they are. I have known people with 300 friend plus lists sit in front of the PC all day. You could look for me on these sites, except I am not there anymore. I probably am missing out on business but…people can buy friends, and this is used to sway opinion and business all the time.
So what was in 2005 a relationship in terms of ‘when will he call, or why did he not call’ it now has gone into the realm of ‘he has only texted me once today’. This is raising the standards in relationships impossibly high. For one, I don’t have the time to text my clients, let alone have time for a relationship, nor to simply be in one and text! The economy is simply not as good as it used to be, so many of us are communicating from work. Many misunderstandings arise this way.
In fact I have seen a direct rise in break ups almost like a bell curve with the introduction of networking platforms. This is discouraging news, and Except that texts are an awful way to communicate. I have never had more business in a way due to its confusions and mix-ups. One cannot derive tone from them and I find it physically painful on my poor thumbs, thus making me additionally grumpy texting. Usually this is between dozens that fly in at once, which as many of you know, usually happens when you are driving or en route somwehere. How could I expect to have a healthy relationship flying through the check out and on the public transport? As you know, as many of you know, if you don’t answer one within a few minutes, you look like a snooty princess.
My recommendations would be as follows: Please do not encourage texting initially and keep them calling. Only text to meet. Use it as if you were talking to your boss. I have seen a decline in relationship quality, and men usually follow with what is easiest. The problem is that they will get into a habit, and you will psychologically expect more empty communication and you wont have built a real relationship to support it. We have to remember what life was like actually seeing someone – not the amount of texts we received in one day.
This is why started my business doing what I did years ago. I saw voice disappearing and these heady, intellectual and non-grounded relationships were emerging, which I could see as a nightmarish mixture of real feeling, mind-games and fear. I felt the emergence of the internet would serve to confuse real relationships, whilst doing the real and tangible wonderful job of helping mankind. This was one of its functions. We must differentiate in order to remain human. We are not culture makers – we are humans. Keep living, feeling, keep making real relationships – don’t worry if you are not contributing to culture, ideas, art right now – you may be better off being yourself – enough people are thinking, creating and culture creating for you and you too will contribute a perfect project or idea or company one day and you may end up creating substandard work just keeping up with the others. This is why some people are in sub-standard relationships – too many people are networking online, so it looks almost pathetic if you don’t have a webpage or presence. It’s not. It’s a sign off confidence.
Don’t fall onto the bandwagon of having to appear online. You don’t have to to exist on this planet. Our kids, my emerging clients and your friends are going to need real people in their lives, not just empathic relationships and media entertainment and constant stimulation. Remember to nurture your real life philosophies, not your friends lists. They don’t act that way in real life anyway – they are usually nicer .
© Carmen Miro 2012
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