As a voluntary researcher and experimenter in my field I am often faced with the most interesting unanswered questions – the most pressing one being: what defines a good connection with someone? Sometimes the answer is presence. This sense of feeling ‘present’ – alive – is what can sharply define a relationship to its point of success or failure. I don’t mean to bring in the idea of consciousness – but the much finer aspect of someone being aware of ‘mindful’. This can mean they are mindful of themselves – you – your feelings – or even their footsteps in the moment.
Mindfulness is an ancient idea that has been popularized through the resurgence of Yoga and meditation. This form of meditation calls for the person to be present in the moment, aware of breath and thought. This is an art form – a special awareness – a discipline and power. It is much more challenging to implement than other forms of meditation in a sense, as we are inundated by messages from various cultures, personalities and marketing strategies. Even the idea of being not being mindful has been marketed. You will see this in all of the advertising that asks you to do something or act upon something ‘now’. So what is that actual value of mindfulness and its connection to empathy or telepathy?
I would motion to say that many of the more successful or easily read people at times are when they are present – they are sometimes highly focused individuals, this being whether they are successful, moneyed, disabled, despairing or intelligent – this focus and feeling is a quality not often understood even by the people that experience this clarity themselves. They are but instances.
As an empath it means at times I have to look into the minds and feelings of people that are perhaps clouded by sadness, or anger, or confusion – or the heat of the moment, as opposed to vision and self-contentment. Even the art of having fun can be a discipline! Now, I have by no means reached a point of clarity either and I sincerely doubt that any human with emotions and feeling can reach this point of perfection – but I have noticed points of presence that are stronger in some individuals than in others. Sometimes it means that the person has coursed out of a period of anxiety or stress into a more clear and secure point of thinking and feeling. At times it is personality. What I have seen is that everyone reaches a point like this in their lives. It’s like tuning an instrument – on occasion it will not sound right and it often has to be adjusted. This is normal and can allow for experimentation and association, as anyone with an instrument will know well.
Momentary presence in turn can enhance a relationship, encouraged by the more engaged partner or friend. The person does not have to be exclusive with you to be ‘engaged’ or aware of your interaction. You would be surprised how many people have this ability! Regardless of gender or identity – sometimes presence can be encouraged by drawing the partner out of their own little cave of feeling or privacy on their way as a way to ground them. On the other hand presence can be acquired by a person spending time alone, simply meditating or grounding themselves from people. It’s quite the balance and understandable why people move in and out of moments of awareness.
Loners can sometime have a stronger feeling to them when I read them, as if they have willingly limited themselves to only the people they can envision themselves aligning with and have defined themselves despite awareness. This is a personal choice and sometimes seems to have been a flexibility they were born with. Many people acquire this ability through hardships. Later in life people tend to ‘wake up’ and define their paths. It’s the different points of definition that I specialize in. For you what this would mean is that I would be able to define whether he or she is ‘awake’ and able to move forward with cogent awareness – that is conscious decision making that will benefit your relationship in the long run. Often it’s one or the others partner’s awareness of an emerging situation or their own feeling or sense of your relationship or communication that can make for success or failure. Moments of consciousness shift on a daily or hourly basis, and sometimes over a lifetime.
What does awareness feel like? Am I present, you ask? To ask this question, of course at that moment you are. There are many things you can do to increase your feelings and confidence in yourself, which can make you feel like a more powerful and self assured person, trusting your own feelings with relish and confidence. Awareness is not a thinking feeling – it can be a supremely and acutely distinct moment. The new job, the loss of a family member, loneliness, not anger. It’s definitely not contentment and bliss and emotional control. It’s from the heart – not a cool intellectual consciousness. It’s the feeling of being alive. People in all states of mind can feel this – it’s not a crisp feeling, but sometimes inherent in their hearts, through a history, a collective soul, regardless of altered states of consciousness. A person can feel aware while they are asleep!
An empath can help you understand this mode of awareness within you or your partner and what to do to evoke intelligent, productive responses within or despite different levels of consciousness. A dulled response does not indicate lack of inherent awareness – perhaps it is a moment of consciousness shutting down or a switching of gears, as opposed to an unaware person. Some people employ coping mechanisms. I do find it easy to read people during moments that they shift in and out of these moments, like a dramatic flare – the trick is to catch a read on a person in the right moment due to my innate curiosity not in manipulation, but in the origin of action, or what precipitates decision making.
About The Author: Carmen’s waking dreams have provided accurate glimpses into the future for celebrities as well as political and international figures. Her non-judgmental, Empathic approach, as well as her unique method of Tarot reading, affords her the reputation as a groundbreaker in her field. This European born Canadian is the first online psychic to promote the idea of Empathy and emotional thought transference, and she has written a great deal on the subject. For a comprehensive Intuitive reading that will transform your life, you can find Carmen at PsychicAccess.com.
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