Adults should be aware of the difficulties of being a child in this day and age. It can be confusing (actually, it never was very clear).

As I was doing a reading a couple of weeks ago, I noticed how negatively a young mother was speaking of her 12 year old.  And in the reading we did see that beautiful, confused child having difficulties. So, in a follow-up mail, I sent her some of the things to always remember to say to her child.

1. I love you.  Nothing that will happen will ever make me stop loving you.

2. You are wonderful. I look at you in amazement. Not just at what you can do, but who you are.

3. It’s okay to be sad, or to cry. People cry for all kinds of reasons: when they are hurt, sad, glad, worried, angry, afraid, or lonely.

Children have more need of models than of critics ~ Carolyn Coats

4. You’ve made a mistake. That is okay.  All of us make mistakes. The important thing is how we can fix it? I’ll work with you to fix it.

5. You did the right thing.  That was scary or hard.  I am proud of you; you should be too.

6. I’m sorry. Forgive me. I made a mistake. I will work to fix it and do better.

There is no love contained in negative remarks or criticism.  Love is what heals and directs us into a positive path.  Remember, positive remarks and reassurance works so much better than criticism and anger.